Thread split: cross-dressing and homosexuals

bleh3489

New member
This is an incredibly ignorant, yet very pervasive belief. Being gay has nothing to do with "gender confusion." In fact it has nothing to do with "gender." Gender and Sexuality are very different things. And the majority of cross dressers are in fact straight. What causes the confusion is most people don't understand the differences between crossdressers (men who enjoy wearing womens clothing, usually at home and in private), drag queens (men, usually gay, who perform in "drag", often to make a living) and transexuals (men -or women- who feel they have been born the wrong sex.) A lot of transexual men do go on to date men, but some continue to date women, becoming "lesbians." Being gay however, simply means you are attracted to the same sex.
Many gay men are "hyper-masculine," they are gay partly because they are attracted to masculinity.
Keep in mind this outline is very simplistic.
 

Gez

Member
Well, I had some neighbors until recently who were both trans-sexual men. So I guess being gay men wasnt good enough for them, they had to be gay women Which is fine, they were good neighbors... but they tried a little too hard I think. A real woman would not mow her lawn while wearing makeup, jewlry and some cute little sandals. And one of them was a real gear-head, digging into an engine wearing high heels and long fake nails up to his elbows in engine grease. He had a Ford Lightning and sold it for an older corvette so you know _something_ is a bit queer...
 

pshaudy

New member
That's just amazing. I agree with the trying too hard thing.
I've been fortunate(?) enough to experience a "cross dressers" parade, absolutely amazing. Gangs of straight men in their 50's dressed up like their grandmothers with strings of pearls, pumps, and furs, with their wives following behind them. Trying way too hard, they looked like Joan Crawford and their wives looked like soccer moms. Men in general, gay or straight, seem to be guilty of doing ridiculous things in heels.
 

neeko143

New member
Wow. You must not know too many gay men then. I am gay, and every gay man I know wil completely disagree with you. NONE of them are crossdressers.

And being gay and being confused about gender are two drastically different things. Gender Identity Confusion relates to how a person views themselves in terms of who they are in relation to what sex they are (ie: "A man trapped in a woman's body"). Just because I happen to be attracted to men doesn't mean I feel like a woman. It means I like guys. There's a world of difference, so let's try to avoid the armchair psychoanalysis without the proper background please.
 

LineN

Member
Way too young and way too pretty

I prefer my guys with a bit more meat on their bones and a bit more hair on their chests

and did the "gay" whatever thread get nuked?
 
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