Senegalese Advice - Husband traveling to Senegal without me?
I have been married to a senegalese man for 3 years now. He has already gotten his papers via our marriage. I have met all of his family and friends. On the phone everyone SEEMED nice but in person only the men were friendly. The women were a hot mess and I found them to be extremely rude. We have 1 child and 1 on the way. Prior to our marriage he could not travel unless he wanted to get stuck over there. Now he is able to travel but this is his 1st trip home in over 10 years and he is not taking me. I'm pissed. The only thing he can tell me is that timing is not good because of my relationship with his family and that I'm pregnant it's not good for me to be there now. Should I be concerned? He suggests I wait until things are better with his family. The men in the family adore me but the women have given me a hard time. For the past 3 years I have not taken a vacation waiting on him to travel and I feel regardless of how his family feels this is a slap in the face. I feel that I lost 3 years of my life. Our marriage is very rocky and I don't feel it's a good idea for him to be traveling to his home country for the first time without me. Am I being selfish? He borrowed the money for his ticket and we have bills to pay in our house. I feel very insecure due to things not being right between us but I also feel used. Can anyone senegalese give me some advice. Today a cousin he has never met called him. Initially he said he didn't want to go because he's expected to bring back all of these gifts. Now I need to make sure my house is taken care of before he leaves and he wants me to make all of these financial sacrifices while he does whatever he wants with his money. fyi I was born here
I have been married to a senegalese man for 3 years now. He has already gotten his papers via our marriage. I have met all of his family and friends. On the phone everyone SEEMED nice but in person only the men were friendly. The women were a hot mess and I found them to be extremely rude. We have 1 child and 1 on the way. Prior to our marriage he could not travel unless he wanted to get stuck over there. Now he is able to travel but this is his 1st trip home in over 10 years and he is not taking me. I'm pissed. The only thing he can tell me is that timing is not good because of my relationship with his family and that I'm pregnant it's not good for me to be there now. Should I be concerned? He suggests I wait until things are better with his family. The men in the family adore me but the women have given me a hard time. For the past 3 years I have not taken a vacation waiting on him to travel and I feel regardless of how his family feels this is a slap in the face. I feel that I lost 3 years of my life. Our marriage is very rocky and I don't feel it's a good idea for him to be traveling to his home country for the first time without me. Am I being selfish? He borrowed the money for his ticket and we have bills to pay in our house. I feel very insecure due to things not being right between us but I also feel used. Can anyone senegalese give me some advice. Today a cousin he has never met called him. Initially he said he didn't want to go because he's expected to bring back all of these gifts. Now I need to make sure my house is taken care of before he leaves and he wants me to make all of these financial sacrifices while he does whatever he wants with his money. fyi I was born here