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Samantha

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so here's the thing, me & my friend spent the night at a guys house. & we got pretty drunk. there were four of us there. my & a friend & two guys. my friend passed out really early. & the two guys have created a rumor in school that i gave one of the guys oral. & i have NOTHING to back myself up. i was drunk, my friend was passed out & the two guys weren't that drunk & the other one is saying that he saw it happen.
everyone is believing it, even my bestfriends, it's so bad that i'm started to believe it myself.
what can i do?????????

please don't tell me how stupid it is to get drunk in high school. it was my first time & my LAST!
 
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jaseyraex1

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If youre positive that it didn't happen, then all you can do is laugh it off and just make it clear you are saying it didnt happen. but if you get too stressed over it, they'll only say it more. Just ignore it, they'll shut up sooner or later and move onto the next rumor. good luck girl. guys can be dicks<3
 
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RomeosaveMet

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well you dont know that you didnt necessarily if you were that drunk so thats def not gud.........im not like judging you or nething i know these things happen....but idk you should probably confront the guys abt it..if you are in highschool how old are you and how old are these guys? if you are like 15 and they are abt 20 myb you should tell someone...jst an idea something similar to this happended to my friend and her former bf and then her mom found out and they charged the guy with rape
 
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memyselfandI

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You can joke and say, Yeah it was easy to do that because it was SO SMALL!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

But seriously, that sucks for you. I would be so mad at my best friends for not believing me. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. People can be SUCH JERKS. They are such losers.

I don't know what else you can do without making things worse. Just keep telling people when they ask you, or talk about it, "yeah they wish, they are the biggest losers. Why do they have to need to make up a story like that?? They obviously are hurting." Then end it there and walk away. Leave people wanting to hear more from you. They will start talking and say "she sounds like she's telling the truth." Try not to act like you're upset, it just fuels the fire -- be confident, and laugh about it and say YEAH RIGHT, practice saying it in front of the mirror, and you'll be able to say it easier. Just keep denying it and protect yourself next time! They could have completely taken advantage of you too. Try to let it blow over and people will focus on the next rumor. GOOD LUCK!
 
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Archiefan<333

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so here's the thing. do u think u had oral? how old are you? You should think about this before you do anything. Were there any parents around? If so, then I don't think they would let you sleep together.
 
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Bexi

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If you didn't do it you have nothing to worry about. Stick to your guns and be confident and people will start to see that the guys made it up.
If you just got too drunk and did something stupid, then you need to fess up and admit you were wrong. Not just about the drinking but about making a bad decision.
 
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memyself&It

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I'm glad you learned your lesson ! well, my advice is to stop talking to those two guys all together. But if you feel you should, let them know that you don't appreciate them spreading these rumors, whether they're true or not. but other than that, cut off All contact. you can't help what the two guys say, and you can't help what others believe is true. all you can do is learn from it. this is the type of situation that you just have to heal from with time. i hope i helped & take care =) p.s. don't ever let guys take advantage of you like that in the future. Have lots of respect for yourself, and always be smart. keep true friends in your life who will be there for you & won't believe everything they here, without talking to You about it. Don't get too involved with boys right now, wait for the one that is special for you and makes you smile.
 
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memyselfandI

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You can joke and say, Yeah it was easy to do that because it was SO SMALL!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

But seriously, that sucks for you. I would be so mad at my best friends for not believing me. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. People can be SUCH JERKS. They are such losers.

I don't know what else you can do without making things worse. Just keep telling people when they ask you, or talk about it, "yeah they wish, they are the biggest losers. Why do they have to need to make up a story like that?? They obviously are hurting." Then end it there and walk away. Leave people wanting to hear more from you. They will start talking and say "she sounds like she's telling the truth." Try not to act like you're upset, it just fuels the fire -- be confident, and laugh about it and say YEAH RIGHT, practice saying it in front of the mirror, and you'll be able to say it easier. Just keep denying it and protect yourself next time! They could have completely taken advantage of you too. Try to let it blow over and people will focus on the next rumor. GOOD LUCK!
 
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Tara

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you're not stupid. it's high school, it definitely happens.
if you were drunk, are you sure you didn't?

even if you did, it's not that big of a deal. no one will remember it in a few years.
it's just high school drama, and some people don't have anything else to do with their lives but make up stuff about others.
but, if you know you didn't.. just let them say what they want to.
if someone says something about it, laugh at them and tell them you were just drunk.. and how small the guys penis is. that'll shut them up.

good luck!
 
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mosaic

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well, the situation you put yourself in doesn't make for a good reputation.. let's face it.
HOWEVER.. these things tend to blow over (oops.. excuse the pun). You will be old news tomorrow as the next rumor starts flying around.

The bigger deal you make of it the worse it's going to get. Just ignore it.

Look at the stars who get talked about all the time... The ones who lay low get ignored.. it's the ones in the spotlight that get the attention.


but P.S (and I'm just thinking here.. not saying you should def. do this)... if a guy took advantage of you while you were not coherent then that is rape wouldn't ya think? Maybe they should know that and be very very careful. Ask them if they'd like their mom and their entire family in the newspaper...
 
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mosaic

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well, the situation you put yourself in doesn't make for a good reputation.. let's face it.
HOWEVER.. these things tend to blow over (oops.. excuse the pun). You will be old news tomorrow as the next rumor starts flying around.

The bigger deal you make of it the worse it's going to get. Just ignore it.

Look at the stars who get talked about all the time... The ones who lay low get ignored.. it's the ones in the spotlight that get the attention.


but P.S (and I'm just thinking here.. not saying you should def. do this)... if a guy took advantage of you while you were not coherent then that is rape wouldn't ya think? Maybe they should know that and be very very careful. Ask them if they'd like their mom and their entire family in the newspaper...
 
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