We met on eharmony? Been dating long distance for 2.5 yrs. he was married for...

elongoria123

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...5 yrs and been divorced for 9? I was married for 10yr and divorced for 3. We both are from Texas 6 hrs apart. We only see each other once a month because he travels., He says i am definetly the once but keeps bringing up God that its not the right time and its at Gods timeing not ourst. Hes 41 im 37 I have 2 kids he has none and wants to have children. He is reapectful and kind loving and caring. He says He wants to marry me but he does not want to make a mistake and marry the wrong person. He says im not patient enough. we have been broken up on and off for over 6 month. But i bekieve that when two people love each other then they should take a risk and go for it. and when we see each other the same routine over and over nothing ever changes. We are both educated and have desent jobs. I have offered to move but he says no and he says he will look for a job after Jan. or March. every couple of month he moves it further. Should I leave him? Move on and find my soul mate. It hurts cuz i do love him.
 

goofygoober

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It honestly sounds to me that he is making loadsof different excuses for not making any commitment. Do remember that he has been married before and they didnt last so he might have some reservations to getting close to a woman again. Although it breaks my heart to say this honey but i do think things wont progress here. I think all those may be things he wants but things he isnt ready to take a risk for. Id say ask him for some form of commitment and if he refuses go on your way. Life is too short to spend it alone so find another man who shares your goals and ideals.
 

Elizabeth

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Sounds like he's still married if you ask me. I would close the door and move on. Sorry if i sound hard but if he was being honest you wouldn't be having all these problems and i think you know yourself there is something wrong here.
 
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