justanotherguy1
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This is just from my point of view, It's really hard to understand a situation without being in the relationship.
So about a year ago we started talking and really hit it off. We knew each other through friends and met through school. After i while i asked her out and we were officially a couple, we were both 17 and this was both our first real partner. At the time, i liked her, but didn't have strong feelings of love and commitment towards her, i never expected it to last, i was predicting it would be like any other stupid teenage fling and end in about three months. So 2 weeks into the relationship, I shared a drunk kiss with a stranger i met at a festival. I felt horrible and the rumors generated about that night
hurt our relationship, I lied because i was scared of losing her and she believed me. For the next 7 months or so we dated a lot and celebrated one month anniversaries with something a little bit more special, maybe I'd cook for her or wed' go out to a restaurant and get all dressed up. It was the happiest time of my life. We did have maybe 2 serious fights, mainly over text message, but they were solved there and then. One day out of the blue, she says that her and my best friend had been talking, and they somehow both revealed that they had a crush on each other, right before we got together. This was really scary but once again it was sorted out pretty quickly and everyone agreed they were just friends. Nevertheless i got my guard up big time. At parties i would follow them around because i was paranoid they might have a momentary slip, she is such a nice girl and was always so friendly towards guys (which they definitely would interpret as flirting). Anyways this got worse and worse, until new years when she met a guy she really it it off with (not my best friend). She spent the whole night with talking with him and basically left me. I got more and more clingy after this, feeling like i had to hold onto her, when really i was just pushing her away by doing so. About a month later on our anniversary, i had set up something really romantic, and had hoped to get things more physical. We always had trouble because we both live at home and have no privacy, but tonight seemed perfect. However she wasn't in the mood, which pretty much summed up her view on our relationship at that point. I got mad and tried to guilt trip her and eventually she stormed out and i chased her through the streets begging her forgiveness. We made up and i told her id try to not be so clingy etc. A week later at a house party, there was the guy she met at new years. I saw the way she looked at him as he walked in...total lust. I couldn't help but follow her. Eventually she pulled me aside and said 'we have to talk'. she explained that she felt we had very different ideas on what a relationship should be etc etc. I revealed i cheated on her 2 weeks in. She was mortified and proceeded to spend the rest of the night drinking, dancing and chatting with this new guy. After that night we were officially broken up. Over the next two weeks however we talked so much about all the problems in our relationship that we had let build up that we eventually struck a truce, and we decided to give it another shot, with the intention to change for the better. A week later at yet another party, things we going great, until she pulled me aside again, she said she rushed into the decision to get back together and that she needed more time, she was far more positive in the way she spoke about me but she did imply that there was a chance we would not get back together, she threw me the 'lets be friends' card and i was devastated. She spent the night dancing drinking and chatting with my best friend (the one she had a thing for) and at this point id had it and told him to lay off her. This caused a major rift and my ex and i spent the next week fighting about it, during which time we were on a break (where we we went allowed to see other people). Anyways she went to another party a week later and got drunk and kissed the guy she met on new years even though technically we werent allowed to see people on our break. Game over, we broke up. About a month and a half later she calls me saying how new years boy told her he didn't want a relationship and only wanted her for sex. I felt so sorry for her i decided not to rub it in her face and offered her my shoulder to cry on. We spent the next two weeks reconnecting as friends and talking a lot, helping her through her tough time. Eventually the focus was back on us and why we cant be together and how we should just be friends. This was okay, i saw it as a stepping stone to getting back together. We went out for dinner and had a really good time. She said it reminded her of the good times. A few days later we happened to be attending the same persons birthday at a club. We travelled to the cub together with a group of friends and we spent about the same
We went to club. spent about same amount of time with each other as we did with our other friends, maybe a touch more. She told me to hold her stuff and i did, about 20 mins later she comes back and tells me she made out with 2 of my good friend (not new years boy or my best friend) i said i didnt care anymore and that were still friends, even though it hurt me. later that night we got a litle bit closer and i got more affectionate towards her with kissed on the cheeks and she kissed me. after which she said, 'i still want to be just friends'. I said ok and we got a taxi home together and hugged a fair bit. Its the day after and shes still persistant on being just friends. Also, during our month and a half apart, she kissed my best friend (the one she had a thing for) What should i do? Do we have a future? is she just a ****? feel free to leave any comments or opinions and advice. Thanks
So about a year ago we started talking and really hit it off. We knew each other through friends and met through school. After i while i asked her out and we were officially a couple, we were both 17 and this was both our first real partner. At the time, i liked her, but didn't have strong feelings of love and commitment towards her, i never expected it to last, i was predicting it would be like any other stupid teenage fling and end in about three months. So 2 weeks into the relationship, I shared a drunk kiss with a stranger i met at a festival. I felt horrible and the rumors generated about that night
hurt our relationship, I lied because i was scared of losing her and she believed me. For the next 7 months or so we dated a lot and celebrated one month anniversaries with something a little bit more special, maybe I'd cook for her or wed' go out to a restaurant and get all dressed up. It was the happiest time of my life. We did have maybe 2 serious fights, mainly over text message, but they were solved there and then. One day out of the blue, she says that her and my best friend had been talking, and they somehow both revealed that they had a crush on each other, right before we got together. This was really scary but once again it was sorted out pretty quickly and everyone agreed they were just friends. Nevertheless i got my guard up big time. At parties i would follow them around because i was paranoid they might have a momentary slip, she is such a nice girl and was always so friendly towards guys (which they definitely would interpret as flirting). Anyways this got worse and worse, until new years when she met a guy she really it it off with (not my best friend). She spent the whole night with talking with him and basically left me. I got more and more clingy after this, feeling like i had to hold onto her, when really i was just pushing her away by doing so. About a month later on our anniversary, i had set up something really romantic, and had hoped to get things more physical. We always had trouble because we both live at home and have no privacy, but tonight seemed perfect. However she wasn't in the mood, which pretty much summed up her view on our relationship at that point. I got mad and tried to guilt trip her and eventually she stormed out and i chased her through the streets begging her forgiveness. We made up and i told her id try to not be so clingy etc. A week later at a house party, there was the guy she met at new years. I saw the way she looked at him as he walked in...total lust. I couldn't help but follow her. Eventually she pulled me aside and said 'we have to talk'. she explained that she felt we had very different ideas on what a relationship should be etc etc. I revealed i cheated on her 2 weeks in. She was mortified and proceeded to spend the rest of the night drinking, dancing and chatting with this new guy. After that night we were officially broken up. Over the next two weeks however we talked so much about all the problems in our relationship that we had let build up that we eventually struck a truce, and we decided to give it another shot, with the intention to change for the better. A week later at yet another party, things we going great, until she pulled me aside again, she said she rushed into the decision to get back together and that she needed more time, she was far more positive in the way she spoke about me but she did imply that there was a chance we would not get back together, she threw me the 'lets be friends' card and i was devastated. She spent the night dancing drinking and chatting with my best friend (the one she had a thing for) and at this point id had it and told him to lay off her. This caused a major rift and my ex and i spent the next week fighting about it, during which time we were on a break (where we we went allowed to see other people). Anyways she went to another party a week later and got drunk and kissed the guy she met on new years even though technically we werent allowed to see people on our break. Game over, we broke up. About a month and a half later she calls me saying how new years boy told her he didn't want a relationship and only wanted her for sex. I felt so sorry for her i decided not to rub it in her face and offered her my shoulder to cry on. We spent the next two weeks reconnecting as friends and talking a lot, helping her through her tough time. Eventually the focus was back on us and why we cant be together and how we should just be friends. This was okay, i saw it as a stepping stone to getting back together. We went out for dinner and had a really good time. She said it reminded her of the good times. A few days later we happened to be attending the same persons birthday at a club. We travelled to the cub together with a group of friends and we spent about the same
We went to club. spent about same amount of time with each other as we did with our other friends, maybe a touch more. She told me to hold her stuff and i did, about 20 mins later she comes back and tells me she made out with 2 of my good friend (not new years boy or my best friend) i said i didnt care anymore and that were still friends, even though it hurt me. later that night we got a litle bit closer and i got more affectionate towards her with kissed on the cheeks and she kissed me. after which she said, 'i still want to be just friends'. I said ok and we got a taxi home together and hugged a fair bit. Its the day after and shes still persistant on being just friends. Also, during our month and a half apart, she kissed my best friend (the one she had a thing for) What should i do? Do we have a future? is she just a ****? feel free to leave any comments or opinions and advice. Thanks