well me and my boyfriend are 16, close friends for 2 years and dating for 4 months.
There is a guy names ben who was in our year at school and he was a good friend of mine and my boyfriends, But he does like to assume things and make stuff up to embarrass people. Like if people have been dating over 2 months he assumes they are having sex and says this to people as if it were true.
Well be in friends with my boyfriends younger sister (she is 14 and very popular and quite attractive) So having an older guy flirty with her etc makes her trust and believe ben (she doesn't know what he is like, he is the most untrustworthy person on the planet)
But of course after 2 months ben assumed me and my boyfriend were having sex and told my boyfriends sister, this p*ssed us off a lot (we were having sex but we would never tell ben because we don't trust him or anyone so nobody but us 2 know)
But now its gotten worse because apparently Ben has been telling my boyfriends sister that i have cheated on my boyfriend, i would never cheat on my boyfriend it took 2 years to get to the point where i was brave enough to ask him out and i wouldn't do that to anyone out of principle. But 2 days ago in an argument his sister yelled well ben said rachel has been cheating on you, he was already upset because of a family argument but this put him over the edge and he got seriously depressed and it was 7 hours until he told me why he was so upset then i told him i wasn't and then he realised how silly it is thinking i would cheat on him.
But how can i get this to stop, its really annoying me and my boyfriend because after being told me and her brother were 'having sex' she told her parents (luckily they didn't believe her) but its embarrassing. My boyfriend has sent a message to Ben asking him if he did say it (because he doesn't fully believe that ben did say anything because his sister might have just said it to upset him) And i have been asked not to mention this to ben because a message has already been sent (no reply) so i should just leave it just in case it isn't true, if it is true my boyfriend said i can do what ever i want to ben (killing him is a possibility) but until we know if its true were going to leave it, but i'm so upset about this because its horrible stuff being said that's untrue about you and i trusted ben with many secret personal things (before i knew what he was like) and i cannot bare the thought of my boyfriends sister (and the sister will tell their parents) knowing, some of the stuff is really personal and embarrassing so i don't know what to do.
His sister apparently likes me but i have never really met her or his parents but how can i deal with this situation and how can i deal with ben because i have already tried asking him not to tell people stuff and he does it anyway.
please help me, sorry its a long question.
There is a guy names ben who was in our year at school and he was a good friend of mine and my boyfriends, But he does like to assume things and make stuff up to embarrass people. Like if people have been dating over 2 months he assumes they are having sex and says this to people as if it were true.
Well be in friends with my boyfriends younger sister (she is 14 and very popular and quite attractive) So having an older guy flirty with her etc makes her trust and believe ben (she doesn't know what he is like, he is the most untrustworthy person on the planet)
But of course after 2 months ben assumed me and my boyfriend were having sex and told my boyfriends sister, this p*ssed us off a lot (we were having sex but we would never tell ben because we don't trust him or anyone so nobody but us 2 know)
But now its gotten worse because apparently Ben has been telling my boyfriends sister that i have cheated on my boyfriend, i would never cheat on my boyfriend it took 2 years to get to the point where i was brave enough to ask him out and i wouldn't do that to anyone out of principle. But 2 days ago in an argument his sister yelled well ben said rachel has been cheating on you, he was already upset because of a family argument but this put him over the edge and he got seriously depressed and it was 7 hours until he told me why he was so upset then i told him i wasn't and then he realised how silly it is thinking i would cheat on him.
But how can i get this to stop, its really annoying me and my boyfriend because after being told me and her brother were 'having sex' she told her parents (luckily they didn't believe her) but its embarrassing. My boyfriend has sent a message to Ben asking him if he did say it (because he doesn't fully believe that ben did say anything because his sister might have just said it to upset him) And i have been asked not to mention this to ben because a message has already been sent (no reply) so i should just leave it just in case it isn't true, if it is true my boyfriend said i can do what ever i want to ben (killing him is a possibility) but until we know if its true were going to leave it, but i'm so upset about this because its horrible stuff being said that's untrue about you and i trusted ben with many secret personal things (before i knew what he was like) and i cannot bare the thought of my boyfriends sister (and the sister will tell their parents) knowing, some of the stuff is really personal and embarrassing so i don't know what to do.
His sister apparently likes me but i have never really met her or his parents but how can i deal with this situation and how can i deal with ben because i have already tried asking him not to tell people stuff and he does it anyway.
please help me, sorry its a long question.