What do you do about a husband that is constantly complaining..?

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Amy K

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about his job? Yes he has stress at work but so do I. He is salaried and works ridiculous hours and he just can't say no to his employers. He is raising my blood pressure and after 10 years I am tired of it!
 
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justme1435

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Record him for about a week. Then sit down one night and say you know what. This is all you do when we talk and then play the recording. It will get the hint across.

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justme1435

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Record him for about a week. Then sit down one night and say you know what. This is all you do when we talk and then play the recording. It will get the hint across.

for relationship humor
http://www.shesrighthesright.com
 
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Gr8_eye_D_a

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I was one of those complaining husbands at one point. I didn't use to be but it happened and I didn't even notice. It depends on how long he's been doing it. If he was that way when you started out, then good luck on him changing. If not, one good way to see it come to a halt is call attention to it. Most men do not like to look inferior or fragile in any way. Tell him point blank what's bothering you and how it's bothering you. My wife did, and I started making a conscientious effort to not bug her with my complaints unless it was of dire necessity (kids, mutual bills, etc...). That helped me because it made me realize a bad habit. It helped her because the way she put it, the house was a little quieter. LOL!
 
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Gr8_eye_D_a

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I was one of those complaining husbands at one point. I didn't use to be but it happened and I didn't even notice. It depends on how long he's been doing it. If he was that way when you started out, then good luck on him changing. If not, one good way to see it come to a halt is call attention to it. Most men do not like to look inferior or fragile in any way. Tell him point blank what's bothering you and how it's bothering you. My wife did, and I started making a conscientious effort to not bug her with my complaints unless it was of dire necessity (kids, mutual bills, etc...). That helped me because it made me realize a bad habit. It helped her because the way she put it, the house was a little quieter. LOL!
 
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jessiedil

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First, did you talk to him about this? I mean not in a negative and demeaning way. Just sit him down and tell him about himself. Tell him you are feeling rejected because all he talks about is his problems at work. Ask him to take a day off and the two of you do something great together. It also feels like you all don't have any together time to just chill together...just the two of you. If you all have come to this point that tells me that you all have grown out of sync with each other and need to learn each other well again. I believe that if you all were in sync then he would know that he is creating a unwelcoming environment for the two of you and that you all need to address this issue. The main problem with couples these days is lack of communication. Get counciling if you need it. But I think the first step is to reach out to him. Hope that helps. Take Care.
 
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