...Theres so much resting on this!? My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for about a year and a half. We've been living together for just about as long. I have a 4 year old son who loves my boyfriend very much, and looks at him like a father. My b/f is increadable with my son, to the point that he knows him better then his own father. But when it comes to me it's completly opposite! I know he'd never cheat ( he's not like that) but i have caught it in a bunch of retarded lies( within the past few months) and when i catch him "red handed" lieing to me he'll deny it then get mad and somehow (im still trying to figure this out) he makes me feel like i was the one that did something wrong. Now when we first got together i told him that i was strongly against lieing, and that i dident care how small the lie is, i look at it as if your going to lie about something small so you dont get in trouble, then what are you going to do when something more serious happeneds?? he also refuses to talk ... anytime i try to discuss bills, our schedual, life .. anything .. he either doesnt listen AT ALL or get gets mad and "doesnt wanna deal with it right now" over the past few months he just tells me to shut up .. another big issue is that he never wants to have sex (i'm not deformed or anything lol) but he's the first guy i've ever dated that was sooo not into sex... like to the point that it's once a month ... THATS FRUSTRATING! and then when it comes to holidays, my birthday, our anniversery.. he has never.. not once, done anything special, nor get me a gift or card..... he's very selfish ... he wont do anything unless he wants to do it. on top of that (i'm collecting unemployment and go to school full time) he claims that since he works, he doesnt have to do anything around the house... he doesnt even throw his garbage away... ITS REDICULOUS.... i do love him, although i'm trying to figure out why.... but i have tried everything to get to him to listen ... ive wrote him notes (he throws it away before he even reads it) ive sent him messages on facebook..everything.... it just seems that he only wants me around when it conveinient for him.. I keep saying that he's just immature and he'll grow up .. but it's already been awhile... and my son is attached, quite firmly, to him and i just feel completely hopeless as to what i can do.... please any suggestions, anything i need ideas on how to approach him and what to do!!!