What is the best way to discourage whining and bratty behavior?

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ANd when is a good time to understandably say it could stop? What age, should they be able to know its wrong and understand not to do it?
Im sure all kids whine but I dont want my son thinking this will get him anywhere. He is young still, but I know he understands me. I discourage it how I feel i should, just making sure there isnt some wonderful way I am not thinking of.
That's exactly what I do. I ignore it. I tell him to use his words. I dont acknowledge his whining, or acting like a baby, except sometimes i will move him to a different room, so he can continue acting like baby and I tell him to come talk to me when he's done. And he does.
Thanks nina
 
Ignore it. I always look away and say "I can't hear whiny voices" and walk away. I ignore it the rest of the time until they can stop whining and ask for what they want in an appropriate tone of voice.

If you respond to the whining, then your child is going to learn that whining = getting his way. If you ignore it, then he'll learn whining gets him nothing.
 
You can use any disciplinary technique to discourage whining. For example, one thing that worked for me is using a technique called "The Ladder", really a super-timeout technique.

The key is not really the specific technique you use, but absolute consistency. You can never reward the whining, and should give a disincentive every time. You should also encourage the child to value being grown up, and reward them for acting so.
 
Sometimes just saying "stop whining" in a stern voice and then leaving the room/ignoring them works well. Also saying "I can't hear you from all the whining, when you want to talk like a big girl/boy instead of a baby, I will listen"...

As children, we were told "No one wants to be friends with whiners..." and you know what, it's true...
 
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