Personally, I think they are not taking you and your family into consideration here at all. Christmas is one week from today and they still haven't given you what plans they have? People make plans for Christmas, weeks in advance...especially family. If you usually go, then possibly your sister in law is just assuming you will be there??. I would call her asap and instead of asking, you will have to ask directly ( nicely of course) what the plans are this year as you want to make plans with your parents and your son's father and they are waiting to hear from you. Merry Christmas, hope all goes well for you.
What to do if in laws wont discuss holiday plans?
My sister in law usually has us over for dinner on christmas. We have been trying to figure out if she wants us to come or not so we can plan our holiday accordingly. Now my parents would like to see us for part of the day (they dont care when and will work around our schedule). But its getting to the wire and i dont want my parents being left in the dark for much longer. Also I need to make plans with my one sons father (who is really being great and also letting me wait till i know whats going on with my sister in law). What can i do to get an answer out of her? Weve already flat out asked her what she would like to do.
I suggested to my husband we spend the day at my parents then my son can go to his fathers christmas ening/nightish and we can tell his sister were free all day christmas eve if shed like to do something. He said he hated this idea and needs to see his nieces on christmas. (okay i can get that)
Also inviting them to our house is out of the question as "they perfer not to travel with the entire family" (theres five of them)
How should I solve this so all are happy?
Its hard to make plans because my husband refuse to agree to do anythign with anyone else til he knows when he can see his sister and nieces.
I suggested to my husband we spend the day at my parents then my son can go to his fathers christmas ening/nightish and we can tell his sister were free all day christmas eve if shed like to do something. He said he hated this idea and needs to see his nieces on christmas. (okay i can get that)
Also inviting them to our house is out of the question as "they perfer not to travel with the entire family" (theres five of them)
How should I solve this so all are happy?
Its hard to make plans because my husband refuse to agree to do anythign with anyone else til he knows when he can see his sister and nieces.
ChristineCox
New member
well its getting a bit too close, call her up ask her for a definite answer and if she doesn't give one make plans without her in them, she needs to respect your need to make plans and if she doesn't do it she cant expect you to put off other people till the last minute (they say they are ok with waiting but they really are not)
ask her and if no answer, make plans for christmas and she will have to fit round your plans.
good luck
edit: then make your own plans and your husband can tag along when he feels like making his family a priority over his sister.
ask her and if no answer, make plans for christmas and she will have to fit round your plans.
good luck
edit: then make your own plans and your husband can tag along when he feels like making his family a priority over his sister.
TruthSetsYouFree
New member
make your plans..if your sister in law calls, remind her that she did not make it clear about coming to her home and Christmas is coming soon and you had to know what you were doing..since you have other relatives that did make plans with you
Your husband insists on seeing his sister and nieces - but she won't talk to you about when/if you all can come? And you've already asked her? Your husband sounds like a child - "needs" to see them on Christmas? Oh brother.
Make plans with your family. Leave him behind. Or let them figure out what they are going to do. YOU can't do a thing to make them all happy, because you are not the one who holds the solution to this ridiculous situation. Then maybe next year your husband and SIL wont act like overgrown 3-year olds - or maybe they will? And you can do the same thing...
Make plans with your family. Leave him behind. Or let them figure out what they are going to do. YOU can't do a thing to make them all happy, because you are not the one who holds the solution to this ridiculous situation. Then maybe next year your husband and SIL wont act like overgrown 3-year olds - or maybe they will? And you can do the same thing...
Starsfan14
Member
Make plans on Christmas with your family. And just leave sometime in the day that you could go over to your sister-in-laws. If she can't or won't tell you the plans then you have to do it for her.
Then call and tell them when you are free. If this doesn't work then perhaps next year they will be more forthcoming with their plans.
-- Christmas is not about making everyone happy. That is impossible. Just try to be fair and considerate. And you have done both of those things. So don't worry if so people don't like the plans. You have tried to be as accommodating as possible.
Then call and tell them when you are free. If this doesn't work then perhaps next year they will be more forthcoming with their plans.
-- Christmas is not about making everyone happy. That is impossible. Just try to be fair and considerate. And you have done both of those things. So don't worry if so people don't like the plans. You have tried to be as accommodating as possible.