My daughter is 4 1/2 and her best friend is a boy and he is 3 3/4. He is 10 lbs heaver and approx 1/2in taller than my daughter. They see each other and play almost everyday, especially now that I am not working and she is not in daycare. When they get together they hug and kiss and tell each other they love each other. However, they also "fight" like siblings. My daughter can be a bit bossy and the friend is very timid. But, the fights have become pretty equal. And it's over stuff like what game will they play, who had the toy longer, etc. Here is my problem: the friend's mom won't allow them to work out these "fights"on their own. Now, I don't believe we should let the kids push, hit, shove, or anything violent like that. But, they need to work it out. My friend will yell at them (both, my daughter too,with me there) if they are arguing. She tells then she doesn't want to hear it. I try to get her to ignore it, but she doesn't. believe the kids should try on their own and if they can't work it out then we intervene. So, what do you all think? Because she thinks that because I don't want to interfere, I'm not disciplining. Is she right? Oh, and I brought up the size of the kids because, she is worried that my daughter will "bully" her son and push him around. I admit, she did push him and he didn't't fall because of it, but he cried hysterically, and she was immediately punished On the other hand, I've caught him pushing my daughter to the ground pinning her to the ground and all he got was, "get off of her". I am offended that she feels I don't discipline my daughter (I do, I just don't yell constantly all day like her) and it bothers me that she thinks my daughter is bullying her son. This argument is really putting a strain on us and at the moment we are not even going on play dates. I would appreciate your feelings. I do not believe my daughter is perfect by any means. She is mouthy and it is a problem that I am trying to nip in the bud. But, I don't believe she is undisciplineded nor a bully. Her teachers always said extremely nice things and she never got in trouble at school/daycare. Should we find new friends?