...heartbroken.? I'd been seeing this really great guy since the beginning of january, and I'm pretty sure he liked me a lot too (would hint at doing things together in the future, and he'd always comment on specific things he liked about me). But then about a week and a half ago, I found out I had HPV. I'm 22 and he's my 3rd partner I've ever been intimate with. I know there's no point in blaming anyone, even though the person who gave it to me (my ex) is a heartless twerp, and so it is a little tempting to blame him. But rationally, I know it's pointless to place blame because a lot of the time you can't know you have this virus (no symptoms) until you get checked out, so it gets passed on like wildfire.
I also know the risks associated with it and how it mainly affects girls ( i have the low risk strain for cervical cancer. With regular pap smears, it is very preventable because it's so slow-growing). I'm now also aware most people will get rid of it within 2 years, often a lot sooner. This isn't like hiv or herpes that stays with you forever. What I don't understand is even after I gave him all these facts, and did everything I could to be there for him (because std's have always been his biggest nightmare and now it's come true), it's still over between us. I mean, he most likely has it too now because we've had sex...and it's so common he could easily contract another strain from anyone else he sees anyway... I've told him all this but haven't explicitly asked why we're still broken up. Should I just ask him straight up or would he have come to me if he really cared? Initially i just went along with it because I was embarrased and figured he wouldn't want anything to do with me anymore. Until i got the facts, and now I'm confused about why it's over. Seems unfair.
I also know the risks associated with it and how it mainly affects girls ( i have the low risk strain for cervical cancer. With regular pap smears, it is very preventable because it's so slow-growing). I'm now also aware most people will get rid of it within 2 years, often a lot sooner. This isn't like hiv or herpes that stays with you forever. What I don't understand is even after I gave him all these facts, and did everything I could to be there for him (because std's have always been his biggest nightmare and now it's come true), it's still over between us. I mean, he most likely has it too now because we've had sex...and it's so common he could easily contract another strain from anyone else he sees anyway... I've told him all this but haven't explicitly asked why we're still broken up. Should I just ask him straight up or would he have come to me if he really cared? Initially i just went along with it because I was embarrased and figured he wouldn't want anything to do with me anymore. Until i got the facts, and now I'm confused about why it's over. Seems unfair.