Well, my answer may seem too general but what are your hobbies and interests? My advice, like minded people seek out the same. I won't go into the bar looking for any quality there, not much to be had!!! Digging the bottom of the barrel where that's concerned. I am recently separated and looking to just go out and have fun, but can't join most reputable dating online sites as they don't allow separated, only single, divorced and widowed.....so am expanding my list of hobbies. Get out there girl. You never know when you might run into someone who is totally awesome.