i've been cheated on and i just wonder why do people do it? i mean, i've tried cheating before. felt like shit for days after. not good at all. but i've also been cheated on and the person who cheated didn't cheat just once but multiple times. i just don't understand how people can do this? i have friends who've cheated on their partners as well and don't get me wrong, i'll always have their backs but yet i can't help but ask why they do it? they always come up with some excuse or the other but it never really adds up. i mean, i cheated on the person who cheated on me, pay backs right? not really i just felt worse in the end. is it that you just don't truly care about the person you are cheating on? i have friends who claim they love someone yet they cheat on them, but still are scared to ever lose that person. i just don't understand at all. can anybody enlighten me a bit?