Hi. I’ve been having dreams about falling in love on and off for years, but they seem to have increased in frequency recently. The dreams don’t involve any specific person, real or imaginary, just me, falling in love with a beautiful, intelligent girl who loves me as much as I love her. The dreams don’t take place in any specific context either, it’s been real life and weird imaginary surroundings. They’re not explicitly erotic or pornographic (although they do sometimes contain sex, it’s secondary to what’s going on in the dream) and the girl is often basically faceless – or at least the memory I’m left with when I wake up is simply that of someone graceful and loving who cares about me and admires me as I do her. The knowledge that she was beautiful is what stays, not any actual face from inside my head.
The dreams really bother me. They leave me feeling drained and hollow when I wake up and take days to completely stop thinking about. I’m writing this in case anybody knows what I’m talking about and can tell me how to get rid of it.
Context– I’m 18, male. I’m a student in London, studying Art, Film Studies and Philosophy (yes I know, tosser...) I don’t think I’m emotionally or sexually repressed or deviant– the only thing of this type that I think is probably odd about me is I’ve never managed to keep a relationship together for more than about a month, because I get worried or bored or hemmed in or something and stop calling. I don’t know, it’s something I sort of ignore about myself. It doesn’t seem weird in my head but I have no idea how other people would see it. That’s the only emotional/relationship abnormality I can think of. Also I guess generally I’m quite stand-offish, but only because I really love intelligent arguments. It doesn’t really seem to alienate me from my peers that much, people know I’m joking, I think.
Please, somebody, let me know what you think. What’s going on?
Thanks
The dreams really bother me. They leave me feeling drained and hollow when I wake up and take days to completely stop thinking about. I’m writing this in case anybody knows what I’m talking about and can tell me how to get rid of it.
Context– I’m 18, male. I’m a student in London, studying Art, Film Studies and Philosophy (yes I know, tosser...) I don’t think I’m emotionally or sexually repressed or deviant– the only thing of this type that I think is probably odd about me is I’ve never managed to keep a relationship together for more than about a month, because I get worried or bored or hemmed in or something and stop calling. I don’t know, it’s something I sort of ignore about myself. It doesn’t seem weird in my head but I have no idea how other people would see it. That’s the only emotional/relationship abnormality I can think of. Also I guess generally I’m quite stand-offish, but only because I really love intelligent arguments. It doesn’t really seem to alienate me from my peers that much, people know I’m joking, I think.
Please, somebody, let me know what you think. What’s going on?
Thanks