StrengthIsBeauty
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Yes, it's the holidays again and of course, we're gonna see family alot. Thing is, my boyfriend's family is always nearby and see them more frequently than the average but with this time of the year, it's like I see them everyday (not really but that's what it feels like). They're a very passive-agressive family, they gossip about each other and what's funny is that they all live in the same neighborhood. I've got down who to trust-who not to trust. They use humor and "teasing" to belittle and bully each other. Most of them are just very ignorant to what's appropriate and not appropriate, however, there is an aunt (who has a green sense of humor) that actually knows the boundaries between the two.
Anyhoo, my boyfriend's cousin has been a "friend" of mine for about 10 years. She's actually someone I don't trust haha but through the years, I've learn to co-exist with her. So within this month, there have been about 3 jokes about my boyfriend and I...sexually. I'm too slow to react and be offended right away...that's just me. I usually laugh along and move on but it's getting to be too much. For my birthday, part of my gift was body wash and my friend announced, "oh it's supposed to be for you two! hahaha" I played along and said, "oh it says, refresh and think clearly. Maybe i'll do that" and just had fun with it. Then there was more sexual jokes that came and during christmas eve last night, someone gifted me a belt and her husband said, "oh maybe you'll use that to whip him tonight." Of course every one laughed and it was funny until 5 minutes later, I realized it was too much. I could've responded back, "oh like how you and your wife do it?" or for it to sting, respond with, "oh you mean how you wish you and your wife do it...since you guys don't have action anymore..i mean, with 2 kids under 3 years old? NO one gets action."
There are things people will say or do that we don't agree with. You can't confront it every single time it happens. You also don't want to be like them and respond the same way. I was thinking of confronting them in front of everyone and asking, "do you guys not have action? You guy LOVE bringing the sexual jokes with us...why is this? I mean I thought one was enough but more than that? WOW! hahahaha" I don't know but I feel like it's too much...they're very ignorant people to be honest and it's not like I can change them to have decency but I can let them know to stop, right?
How do I respond to this? Let them keep talking? I'm tempted to retaliate. I've got dirt on her sex life too but I'm not one to even repeat it back
Anyhoo, my boyfriend's cousin has been a "friend" of mine for about 10 years. She's actually someone I don't trust haha but through the years, I've learn to co-exist with her. So within this month, there have been about 3 jokes about my boyfriend and I...sexually. I'm too slow to react and be offended right away...that's just me. I usually laugh along and move on but it's getting to be too much. For my birthday, part of my gift was body wash and my friend announced, "oh it's supposed to be for you two! hahaha" I played along and said, "oh it says, refresh and think clearly. Maybe i'll do that" and just had fun with it. Then there was more sexual jokes that came and during christmas eve last night, someone gifted me a belt and her husband said, "oh maybe you'll use that to whip him tonight." Of course every one laughed and it was funny until 5 minutes later, I realized it was too much. I could've responded back, "oh like how you and your wife do it?" or for it to sting, respond with, "oh you mean how you wish you and your wife do it...since you guys don't have action anymore..i mean, with 2 kids under 3 years old? NO one gets action."
There are things people will say or do that we don't agree with. You can't confront it every single time it happens. You also don't want to be like them and respond the same way. I was thinking of confronting them in front of everyone and asking, "do you guys not have action? You guy LOVE bringing the sexual jokes with us...why is this? I mean I thought one was enough but more than that? WOW! hahahaha" I don't know but I feel like it's too much...they're very ignorant people to be honest and it's not like I can change them to have decency but I can let them know to stop, right?
How do I respond to this? Let them keep talking? I'm tempted to retaliate. I've got dirt on her sex life too but I'm not one to even repeat it back