Why can't I look people in the eye when I talk to them?

GroverThomas

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And no it's not because I'm a big fat liar!!
I can stare people right in the eye when they're talking to me, but when I reply and start talking back to them my gaze is all over the place and then I start thinking about how rude it must be that I can't look them in the eye, so I'll take a quick look and I'll love that they are looking engaged, but then flitter off looking round the room again!
Why can't I look people in the eye and did anyone ever overcome this and how?
 

Tenpercent

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Just a guess on my part - maybe you feel they might be giving you a look of disapproval, or judging you, or perhaps a lack of self-esteem on your part. Or maybe you lack interest in the other person and are mainly self-focused? You can see if any of those seem like it might be the reason.
 
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