Why do married people complain about problems that have been going on for yrs?

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amber d

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What i mean is i will see a lot of questions on here from married people who say he/she has been doing this or that for yrs like cheating,lying,drinking,drugs,abuse and other stuff but yet they have been putting up with it for yrs..So i say why not stop complaining about it and do something about it like marriage counsling or divorce.....If someone has put with something for yrs then stop complaining and take action.
 
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ocliz4lyfe

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because love makes you do some of the craziest things and sometimes people are just scared of being alone so they stay with someone that is there but not really what they want or deserve
 
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GirlyGirl

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because it is easier to sit back and let stuff happen and just whine about it. actually doing something might take work. people always wait and expect things to change and then after a few years go by they are like wait a second, i have been dealing with this for years??!?!?! and then whine again.. and either do something or just sit there and do nothing.
 
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jay d

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because they are pathetic

and these are the people who say "your not married and you live together and have sex? how immoral, how wrong., what a loser your partenr must be"

maybe if they test drove the ccar before they bought it they would be ok.

I think that the only reason people who live together first have higher rates of divorce is because they dont care what society says, they just want to be happy.

and if this means living together first, and divorcing when it goes wrong, then so be it, for the price of happiness.

people shouldnt care what the neighbours think. it is sad that they do.

I dont care people thinking bad of me, I care when they wrongly think bad of me!

ooh! went off on a tangent a little there! apologies x x x x
 
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barthebear

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It is sad isnt it. You are right. From reading this site I believe people do not know the people they marry often but are ruled by emotions and hormones.
 
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letterstoheather

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because many people are codependent, and dysfunctional living is their "safe place".

no, it may not be safe in reality, but it's all they know... so they continue living in a mess...
 
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MCCHOCO

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I get what you mean when you say stop complaining and do. As my sister always says, its much easier when you actually do it. But at the same time you must understand that there are a lot of issues that arise when it comes to ending a marriage. Kids, religion, finances, low self esteem. And in abusive situations the person may fear for their life and have no where else to turn. Think about it. Also, counseling is not always affordable.
 
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needanswers

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I totally agree with you, but when people come on here and ask questions I truly think they have no more options. I mean counseling is a given, you'd think. Or divorce if abuse or drugs are involved. BUT too many people love their partner SO much that they ARE willing to put up with it all but need at least ONE person to side with them to be able to do it. And that's why they come here.
 
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