Why do women choose to be with the sort of guy who beats her, cheats on her, then

[some guy]

complain about it? Women aren't stupid.

Many of them seem to delight in choosing the sort of guy who will go on to cheat on her, beat her and eventually leave her. It's pretty clear that this is what they want, otherwise they wouldn't choose it.

Women are perceptive.

They know what a guy is like when the choose to be with him. They probably understand him better than he understands himself.

Women like to complain.

It seems like complaining and the ability to claim "victim" status may be more of a driving force than the poor treatment.

Is the poor treatment what they want when they make these choices, or is it merely a means to an end?

 

[teresamc]

I was once with a guy who slapped me around. He was gorgeous, kind of ruff-and-ready, dangerous, the complete opposite of me. It was exciting being with him (when he wasn't beating me) so I let him treat me like crap for a year. I finally got wise and moved out. He came around to see me a year later, said his life was in the toilet and would I marry him so his life would straighten out. I laughed. Then I moved to another city. Far, far away.

 

[gazerethstar]

It actually does make sense

-choosing that type of guy is due to a deep psycholoical need to punish one's self, as though they do not deserve better

- when it comes to the complaining it's usually because they feel the urge to reach and be told that they actually deserve better

It's very complicated, but this is it in a nutshell