No, women don't let themselves go, it's that wwe try so hard to impress the other person, our clothes, makeup, hair and even, or attitudes are on best behaivor to get a man! Once we get a man we can stop trying so hard! I don't do this though, if a man doesn't love me for me, they can f--k off! With men it's the same thing, they stop buying flowers, or little trinkets! I think to many people are jaded by life marrage bills etc! Because women want romatic gestures, and with men they forget or let it fade away,.... women try to make things romantic!