Why does my boyfriend of over a year suddenly lose sexual interest?

[jk_henry51589]

My bf and I have been dating since Valentine's day of 2009. I love him dearly, and couldn't imagine life without him. We started having sex just a few months after dating, and just recently after this Christmas have stopped. He went from being passionate and sexual, to not even wanting to touch me. It's like doing 90 on the interstate in a 335Ci with the top down, and then slowing down to 45 with the top up. I don't know what I did, or how to make it better. It's honestly not even about the sex, it's that he has no sexual interest in me, not even to kiss me more than once or twice, and nothing more than a peck on the lips. If I try to kiss him, he usually moves his face away after a kiss or two so that he can "breathe."

He's still very close to me, and loves to hold me, and be loving. Everything is great, except for the sexual aspects. I've mentioned it to him, a lot, and I just don't know what to do?

 

[DoctorX]

Relationships have to be more than about sex. Physical attraction always fades with time. Romance and true love does not.

Couples need shared values and life goals to work towards. That is why marriage is so important, and saving sex for marriage is important. How can a relationship last if it does not begin with a firm commitment?

 

[callieRach]

If you're assured that his isn't because he's lost interest in the relationship, then you might have to make some efforts to spark the passion back up.
Passion can often fade out of a relationship and that's a dangerous thing. What I read was that men are visual creatures. Make sure you take care of yourself and look appealing to him. Other animals often wear out partners and look for new ones to satisfy that desire in them. What I read (and use) to stop this from happening, is to spark it up once in a while. Wear a costume, satisfy a fetish - and trick his mind to think that he's getting something 'fresh' and 'new'.