Why does sex still hurt after the first time?

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JulietteO'reilly

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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time about 4-5 days ago. We were both virgins, and it put me in excruciating pain. We didn't finish because it hurt too much. We tried again the next day, and it still hurt really badly, but I bled, so I assumed my hymen broke. The third time we tried, though, a few days later, it again hurt incredibly. I assumed by the 4th time it would pass, but it didn't. All I could do was lay there and cry because it hurt so bad. It bled again the 4th time but it was less and darker.

I'm pretty sure we were sufficiently lubricated, because I checked after and I was pretty wet. Also, I don't think I'm too tense because even when I make a point of relaxing all my muscles it still hurts a ton.

Is there something wrong with me? How can I make this stop hurting?

Thanks so much
@april: i'm pretty sure we were haha..i could be wrong but ya..
@wright: it did hurt when i tried putting my finger in just a tiny amount afterwards, but less so
 
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Rachel A.

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I've had the same problem. Yesterday me and my boyfriend had sex for the 3rd time, and we have spaced out each time, and it still hurt me. I know I'm wet enough and everything. I don't know what to do.
 
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iplaymusicforu

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I'd say that it is time to see a doctor or gynecologist soon. Any smart person who cannot figure things out on their own needs to see an expert. None of the people here can tell you for 100% sure what is causing your pain.

There are plenty of articles on the web that try to answer your question. I'd be reading them if I were you. Here's one:

http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/974.aspx?CategoryID=118&SubCategoryID=122
 
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ZoeeySmith

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Don't panic! there is nothing wrong with you.
Everyone is different. For some people they don't have sex because it hurts, or it feels uncomfortable. Many people (if they are the ones who feel pain) only have sex when they want to fall pregnant, because they don't enjoy it, because of all the pain. But don't worry, the first times will be painful. Your opening just had to loosen up and get used to having something in there. (sorry for being so blunt, but that's the truth) Also try spacing the time a little further. Maybe you just need some more time to adjust.
Try it again, but remember if your losing a lot of blood, or develop a rash, go see your GP. Better safe than sorry.
 
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williamt80

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does it hurt when you apply pressure yourself? since y'all are new to sex y'all need to take it slow. have him do some oral stimulation before to make sure you are nice and wet, and unless his johnson is very large it shouldn't hurt when barely in, try touching yourself to see if you can recognize where the pain is coming from, if it persists i would say see your doctor to make sure its not major problem. Also, try taking a break and try it in a week to see if anything has changed.
 
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ELAINEF

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Sex hurts many people on the first occasion so you're not unusual. The problem is that because it hurt the first time, whether you think it or not, you will be tense because you are anxious about it hurting again.

My advice is to put full penetrative sex on hold for a while and try intimate touching so that you are not putting yourself under pressure. Eventually, the anxiety will pass and it will become a lot easier.

Hope that helps
 
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