Brunettewife
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My husband is 44,im 40 and we have been happily married 18 yrs..We haven't had sex since december 20th..During most of our marriage i am the one who has done most of the initiating and of course he is always ready and has never said no to me and of course he has initiate many many times but at least 90% of the time its me...Last yr we went 8 months without doing anything cause we were both waiting for the other to initiate so i got tired of it and finally broke down and initiate in october but since then we have only done it 3 or 4 times cause once again i am waiting on him...This gets so frustrating cause i want to feel wanted and i dont...I know he loves me more then anything and is still very attracted to me and he doesn't have erection problems and since the last time we had sex i have asked him a few times why he hasn't initiated and is he ever in the mood and he says "yea always" and in responds to me asking why he hasn't initiate as usual his answer is always "why haven't you"..I get so sick of that answer from him...I just dont understand if he is always in the mood then why not just initiate why wait for me....He also says "I have told you how many times that whenever you want to do it we will"...We are both still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and cuddling and neither 1 of us is cheating cause we are both strongly against infidelity and we have always gotten along great and rarely fight...He doesnt have to worry about rejection cause i have NEVER said no to him cause i love making love with him...It hasnt been 8 months this time only been since december 20th.
I asked him last week if he was waiting for me and he said "yea" and i dont understand why because like i said he doesnt have to worry about me rejecting him cause i NEVER have because i love making love with him..
I have told him numerous times in the past that he should initiate more and he said he would but nothing has changed.
Do you agree with me that if he really wanted to have sex that he would initiate.
When we met and started dating he was 25 and i was 21 and we were both still virgins and started having sex while we were dating.
This morning about 5 minutes before he had to leave for work we were laying in bed and i started playing with his penis and he got hard right away but we didnt have time to do anything so i said to "we can do it tonight" and he said "yep"..Well this evening i was in the living room watching a movie and he was in the kitchen watching tv we live in an apartment and we dont have a bedroom so our living room is also our bedroom and of course has a bed in it and the kitchen is the next room..Well anyways when the movies i was watch was over around 11 pm i went into the kitchen to get online and i said to him "i thought we were going to do something tonight" and he said "you should have came in here" he meant the kitchen and i said "couldnt you have come in the living room" and he said "well you should have said something to me and i would have came in"...Well i did say something this morning about having sex tonight when i was playing with his penis and also this morning i told him how i have been feeling unwanted by him and he said "im sorry"
What does everybody think of this.
I have talked to him about this many many times and after tonight im thru talking to him about it because it doesnt do any good.
I asked him last week if he was waiting for me and he said "yea" and i dont understand why because like i said he doesnt have to worry about me rejecting him cause i NEVER have because i love making love with him..
I have told him numerous times in the past that he should initiate more and he said he would but nothing has changed.
Do you agree with me that if he really wanted to have sex that he would initiate.
When we met and started dating he was 25 and i was 21 and we were both still virgins and started having sex while we were dating.
This morning about 5 minutes before he had to leave for work we were laying in bed and i started playing with his penis and he got hard right away but we didnt have time to do anything so i said to "we can do it tonight" and he said "yep"..Well this evening i was in the living room watching a movie and he was in the kitchen watching tv we live in an apartment and we dont have a bedroom so our living room is also our bedroom and of course has a bed in it and the kitchen is the next room..Well anyways when the movies i was watch was over around 11 pm i went into the kitchen to get online and i said to him "i thought we were going to do something tonight" and he said "you should have came in here" he meant the kitchen and i said "couldnt you have come in the living room" and he said "well you should have said something to me and i would have came in"...Well i did say something this morning about having sex tonight when i was playing with his penis and also this morning i told him how i have been feeling unwanted by him and he said "im sorry"
What does everybody think of this.
I have talked to him about this many many times and after tonight im thru talking to him about it because it doesnt do any good.