Why is everyone telling me to enjoy life rather than be serious about my future?

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93CivicSi

New member
I am 21 years old right now and have been an over-achiever all my life and I have great ambitions for my future. I got a LOT of awards from sports, schools, YMCA, Boy Scouts and etc. I ran my first business at the age of 19 and I loved the experience. I love to be a leader and take charge/ get involved in being in control to make things work. Business actually makes me happy and I want to be an entrepreneur instead of working a 9-5 job. Some of the people I meet just tell me to enjoy life and not take things so seriously. They also find me to be a boring person. This hurts me because my ex also left me for another man. What do you guys think? I have fun with the things I do but everyone keeps telling me that I need to enjoy life more but if you look at them they are not doing well academically and financially. They just have fun by drinking and going after girls. This is demotivating me about my future and making me feel like an outcast. What do I do?
 
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Judy

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You are a winner for making progress. You won't let the grass grow under you. Over achievers are constantly on the go with great ambition. All of these wonderful traits are good.

What your friends and family are saying is to slow down and enjoy life a little and have fun. Yes over achievers are boring because they are constantly working on their next project. You have to decide a good reasoning of time to stop and have fun. Leave the work and achievements rest for a night out on the town. Or a vacation away for a week. Actually you should be very proud of the work performances you've accomplished.

Let me tell you about my mother and father. They divorced because my father was an over achiever. He was an excellent father and great provider, but didn't want to take mom out on a date and leave the work behind. After many years my mother was lonely for attention and she stepped out after 25 yrs of marriage. She wanted to have a friend and a lover and a good time away from the work and always work and no play. Hopefully, you see the story of the future here because this sounds like you. I am sure you are a great person and a wonderful achiever, but life also has a resting party place with your loved ones. I see you don't want the party life that you often see where people aren't making any progress. I don't mean that kind of party people. You are not an outcast either. But every so often take a good breather away from the business and the work. Take your family or girl friend out on a cruise or on a real get away and remember to leave the work behind. We all need the enlightening freedom for enjoyment with the ones you love.
 
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catharsis

New member
Your final question "What do I do?"

You figure out that you live your life, and everyone else can go and hang.

At forty two, I'm finally trying to get my own business off the ground. I'd be a millionaire by now if I'd had the guts to try it at your age. As it is I'll have to work at for at least five more years.
 
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Joe

Active member
Hey bro.., I think your with the wrong group of kids. We often fall in with 'friends'... out of circumstance... but as time passes we can come to realize that we don't operate on the same frequency... You don't need to be rude to anyone... its not about upmanship... its about being true to yourself. You may be boring to one group of kids but not to another... Doing shots and whatever else may be alright occasionally... but if you are an innovator... don't burn your brain out!.. Your friends may also be jealous... so be careful... Follow your passions and stay healthy... thats not boring... and... I think you'll find some mighty fine women... will like a go getter..{Read Ayn Rand's 'Fountainhead'}
 
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