Why is it that the person who cares less in a relationship holds the most power?

[Bailey]

Is there a medium?
How do you get there?

 

[Bethany]

if youre in a one sided relationship that causes that, get out of it. thats not how it should be

 

[sunset]

Because they have less to lose if the relationship goes south.

 

[Feli]

Because the person who loves the other more, bends more, gets dragged around more, and puts up with more cr@p.

 

[Black_Rabbit]

Because the one who cares/loves a lot surrenders to the other.. sometimes blindly..

 

[Barricade]

The other person is desperate, and desperate people have less power.

To get to the medium, u have to start out equally. It may start with guy asking girl out, but he shouldn't spend so much on her...just a coffee. Next time a dinner. After that, she should pay on the 3rd date. If not, he don't need her. If girl wants the medium, she shouldn't give sex so soon. The longer, the better.

It's easy to get to the medium, but to get there, u lose a lot of people and spend a lot o time a lone.

 

[Thomas]

Ideally a relationship is all about being vulnerable and open and yes that opens a person up to being hurt. hence, people pull back, stop really loving and in the end hurt themselves worse by isolation than they do from being hurt.

Relationships are a lot like sex - we tend to engage in sex naked, no protection, completely vulnerable. that is how both people in a relationship are supposed to approach it equally naked so to speak, equally vulnerable be being hurt.

Yes, you can seek a happy medium of holding back, of protecting yourself, but that is not the way to find true love. I am not saying you invest more trust in a new person than they deserve but I am saying that once a relationship is established you need to be willing to open up and be hurt o the other person will never get to see the real you and fall in love.

 

[Piggy]

Look, if you're even thinking in terms of power, you're doomed anyway. Wrong attitude.

 

[guss_guss45]

lol you need to stop watching movies. Oh and its because the person who cares more feels like they are worth more and are confused as to why this person would care less.

 

[Mochim]

its not that they care less they just put a wall and they act that way so that they dont end up getting hurt, and eventually the one who cares more ofcourse isnt just going to sit there doing nothing they CARE and since the other person knows it theyll keep acting that way

 

[markw]

Because the person who cares less has the least to lose.