PrettyVacant
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Okay. I'm going to have to cut a long story short.
Got involved with a guy at uni - always kissed on a night out, shared a bed (we've never slept together), very good friends. He told me he didn't want a relationship. Towards the end of the first year we became exclusive though took a break for summer. We spoke all the time, i assumed we'd resume our relationship when we got back.
However, the week we were back i questioned him on us (drunkenly) and he told me he was gay. We soberly spoke about it several times since. He said:
- he really cares for me, but he's very confused in the back of his mind
- he called over summer because he loves speaking to me
- he doesn't want to lose me as a friend
I've kept it quiet from everyone here, only two other girls know.
I asked him whether it is unreasonable for him to not get with any girls at the moment, he said he doesn't want to anyway.
When drunk recently, we've had arguments and i've been feeling really weak and unable to handle it. However i told him i wanted to draw a line under it and put in the effort for friendship. We went out on friday and it was fine until i saw him kissing another girl right infront of me. It was utterly heartbreaking and he showed no remorse. We agreed to talk the next day but he didn't call.
I find this insensitive and i can't view him as a friend anymore.. he is trying to offload his guilt by turning it round so i look like the bad one.
My friend (who knows) told me it isn't right for him to tell me he's gay, break my heart and then do that. Friendship is a two way thing and if he wants to make the effort to sort it out then he should contact me. I just have to sit back and not let this ruin my second year.
He has hurt me by doing beyond all comprehension.
Any opinions on the situation at all?
What should i do?
Thank you.
I just want to remain the dignified one.
Got involved with a guy at uni - always kissed on a night out, shared a bed (we've never slept together), very good friends. He told me he didn't want a relationship. Towards the end of the first year we became exclusive though took a break for summer. We spoke all the time, i assumed we'd resume our relationship when we got back.
However, the week we were back i questioned him on us (drunkenly) and he told me he was gay. We soberly spoke about it several times since. He said:
- he really cares for me, but he's very confused in the back of his mind
- he called over summer because he loves speaking to me
- he doesn't want to lose me as a friend
I've kept it quiet from everyone here, only two other girls know.
I asked him whether it is unreasonable for him to not get with any girls at the moment, he said he doesn't want to anyway.
When drunk recently, we've had arguments and i've been feeling really weak and unable to handle it. However i told him i wanted to draw a line under it and put in the effort for friendship. We went out on friday and it was fine until i saw him kissing another girl right infront of me. It was utterly heartbreaking and he showed no remorse. We agreed to talk the next day but he didn't call.
I find this insensitive and i can't view him as a friend anymore.. he is trying to offload his guilt by turning it round so i look like the bad one.
My friend (who knows) told me it isn't right for him to tell me he's gay, break my heart and then do that. Friendship is a two way thing and if he wants to make the effort to sort it out then he should contact me. I just have to sit back and not let this ruin my second year.
He has hurt me by doing beyond all comprehension.
Any opinions on the situation at all?
What should i do?
Thank you.
I just want to remain the dignified one.