Am I Gay? Or Is This Just A Phase?

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JoshFarshe

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I'm 14 and I have really been battling with my sexuality. When I was young kid, I had, like, 53 barbies, that's pretty much where all of this started. I liked girls a lot up until about a year ago. Now, I watch gay porn to masturbate and I have explored with anal penetration. Earlier this year, my best friend and I experimented with mutual masturbation, and he didn't enjoy it as much as I did. I'm very involved with theater, and there are a lot of guys that I looked up to as straight guys that challenge norms and do theater, but now I have more respect for the guys that had the courage to stand up and come out. I'm really struggling with this, I wish I could just be normal and end up marrying a girl and having kids, but what can I do? I do a double take whenever a guy takes his shirt off, but There are girls that I think are so hot it's crazy! I really have no idea what to do, am I gay? Bisexual? Part of me really hopes this is just a phase, I want some type of normality in my life! Please help!

P.S. If I am gay, should I come out, I don't do well with bottled up feelings!
 
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DeltraEmrys

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Right now, it seems as if you're bisexual.
Don't come out yet though, these feelings might change, and it may indeed be a phase. Your hormones go INSANE during puberty, and you should wait til you're older to really judge your sexuality.
Also, don't think that being gay isn't normal! It's absolutely fine!

Good luck :)
 
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Mangotreez96

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It'll be okay! You aren't gay :) First step would be to stop watching that stuff, it's feeding those feelings.
Second, try to figure out which friends are encouraging this so that you can be careful. If you don't want to be gay, then try to go out of your way to protect yourself :)

It's probably just a phase. Really, I think that being gay wouldn't have as much of a positive impact on Your life than being straight would.

Not that I'm against gays or put them down or anything just because they're different than me. But I think having a Natural family, i.e a wife and kids you can take care of and protect would make you happier :)
 
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rosy

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Hi there,

I don't think you should be worried. Its completely normal for people your age to have these feelings and experiment with their sexuality. Its very common, but it might not seem like it to you because not talked about a lot. To "come out" at this stage would be a mistake. You don't want to say you're gay or bisexual, and then continue to develop and discover you're not. Try not to label yourself at this stage. If you say you still are sometimes attracted to girls then this could well be just a phase. Just relax, you're still very very young.
 
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Ruthiee

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Don't come out if you're not sure
Sounds like you are bisexual. Why don't you ask out one of these hot girls...
See if you feel anything.. if so you are probably bi.
Plus you are young, wait a few more years to make sure..
 
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AshleighTe

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sounds to me like youre bisexual. dont worry about what others think and trust me its normal. im bisexual myself :) my mom doesnt like it but i could give a rats a%% less lol. be YOU! theres only 1 of you in this world
 
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jewels

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you are sstill so young, but dont assum that your gay untill you find a girl and then let that feeling answer its self. time will tell but untill then just be you. whatever that may be
 
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