Boyfriend's mom disapproved our relationship?

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I met up with her last week and promised not to see her son anymore. She disapproved our relationship is because of my past that I once had a child with my ex-husband. But the child died because of sickness. My boyfriend does not matter my past at all and I can see that he really love me, care for me and even made a promise in front of my brother and sis in law that he will take good care of me. But I already promised his mom not to see him anymore. He has been coming over to my place every night after work but I refused to open the door for him. But I am so scared I will ended up giving in then again don't wanna break the promise...What should I do??
 
Are you mad!! Why on earth would you care a fig what his mother thinks??? It's not your fault that your baby died!

A promise made under duress is not a promise you need to keep (the duress being a disapproving mother who clearly made you feel like you had no alternative)

Talk to your BF and tell him what has been going on. I'll bet you anything he has no idea of what his mom is doing.
 
if you really love him then you guys will figure out a way to be together and if you love him then you will tell his mom that you guys are together and nothing is going to change it... end of story
 
Why did you make such a dumb promise? You are not put on this earth to make HIS mom happy. TONS of couples deal with this--inlaws being ridiculous. I don't know of the whole story, but I really don't understand why your bf didn't tell his mother how much he loves you and how your past shouldn't make a difference to her since it doesn't to him.

I think you need to call up bf's mom and tell her that you're going to have to rescind on the promise you made. Tell her that you're sorry, but you love her son and you don't think its fair to break up with him just because SHE'S unhappy about your past. Tell her that you hope that you two can become friends in the future and hopes that she doesn't resent you.

The best thing--and the hardest thing--is to just talk openly about it. She might just be a shew and doesn't want anyone dating her son... but its something you'll probably have to deal with. Are you willing to deal with this? I think you might need to talk to your bf also and ask him how he feels about this stuff. Ask him for his support in all this.. this is one of those things the two of your will have to work through together. Hopefully she'll come around to liking you. But the fact is, she might not. (I've seen it happen) She may never like you just b/c you're with her son. So the best thing to do is to be nice to her all the time so that she can "rationally hate you". Then she'll look like the idiot all the time.
 
Sounds like a grown man that can make his own decisions about who he wants to date. Why would you and his mom deprive him of his own free will? God doesn't even take that from us. Get it together! You said he doesn't mind your past then see if thIngs work with this guy.
 
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