Can a true Christian be in a relationship with a non-christian?

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hi, i have a dilema. i know what my religion is but i have not practiced. i have been to church growing up, but not on a regular basis. recently i moved and made friends with a next door neighbor. i thought i liked him and asked him to go out with me. he said that he was currently not interested in a relationship with a woman. i was really bummed about it but later we talked and he explained that he was a true christian and commited his life to god. first i did not know how devoted he was but later i realized that he was all about god, and his life belonged to god. he didn't exlude a relationship with a woman though. i read some literature and got to know that a christian can not be with somebody who doesn't believe in a salvation through jesus. i started going to church with him, mostly because i wanted to be with him. although i am open to accepting christ, i don't think i can ever be that devoted. lately i have noticed that he tries to avoid me. and i found out through other people and also because of what he said, that he may be getting council, because he is afraid he will fall for me, a non-christian. i do want to believe and do want to have faith but can not force it on myself. i hope it will come with time though. so is it possible for a true, and i mean - true, christian to be in a relationship with a not a 100% christian, or they are forbidded from it? can anybody help?
 
Unfortunately, if he is a true Christian, then he will already know the answer to this question. In the Bible, it says "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" - 2 Corinthians 6:14. Christians want to make sure that the people they fellowship with are uplifting and will help them in their Christian faith -- it's kind of like a person standing on the ladder. It's easier for a person standing below the ladder to pull them down, than for the person (Christian) on the ladder to pull them up. It's not too late though! Definitely ask him to pray for you so that you can find a relationship with God! I'll be praying for you, as well!

PS. Honestly, there's no such thing as 100% Christian. We ALL make mistakes, no matter how good somebody seems. Nobody is perfect, so don't worry about being a failure as a Christian or anything like that. Every Christian sins, and God will always forgive! God loves you if you try, read His word, and truly walk in a genuine, comitted, loving relationship with Him. It's hard -- believe me -- but it's 100% possible!
 
The true Christian already knows what you will not admit. You only love yourself. He admitted that he only loves himself long ago, and submitted his will to the Will of the Father. He knows that no matter how appealing you make yourself to him now, and how much you claim to have feelings for him now that later on you will not believe in your 'relationship' with him, just as you do not believe in Jesus Christ as Savior.

You are living based upon your feelings, following your hearts, and trusting your emotions. He is living based upon faith. Faith not only in Salvation through Jesus Christ, but faith in the leadership of God in every aspect of life. God will bless those who put their trust in Him.

That is what draws you to him. That is what makes you want to deceive him. You see the good in him. But what you see is not this man, but the impact of Jesus Christ on his life.

If you really love him, really, then leave him alone. In this act of selflessness, you show your true love.
 
Yes it is possible. You most be willing to except each others belief. If he is devoted you must not discourage him from his faith. God comes before anyone including you (meaning no offense by that). Below is a verse that may be helpful.

1 Corinthians 7:12-16 (KJV)
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
 
I sense that there may be another reason than just his love of God to not engage with you.
 
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband:
1 Cor 7:12-14

If the unbelieving spouse accept their spouses Christianity.
 
I would have to say no. God says do not become unequally yoked and it sounds like he might be headed to become a Preacher and Preachers wife has to be just as dedicated as her husband.

You could ask him to pray for you though. That you would come to truly know the Lord.
I would move on if I were you.
Not that I want to discourage you about being a Christian it just sounds like he may not be the one for you.
Good luck and God bless.
 
If they want but there's going to be A LOT of problems down the road if a true Christian and an Atheist decide to have kids someday.
 
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