...relationships.? I am nineteen, my boyfriend is twenty going on twenty-one. We started dating about a year ago; the beginning of our relationship was really rocky. He kept breaking up with me, I was a senior in high school and not yet 18. My parents are very strict and it was really difficult to spend time with him because my parents had me under their thumb. Along with that, and the issues of dating a minor I believe that contributed. The fighting that went on with us still really hurts me. He says some terrible things when he’s angry, but I guess we all do. He’s incredibly intelligent, talented and beautiful to me. In the time that we were not together he enlisted in the army; his MOS is infantry. This surprised me, but he had talked to me about how he was thinking of enlisting a couple times. We got back together, and we care and love each other deeply. He always reminded me of the realities of what infantry means, that he may not be able to be there for me as a boyfriend but will always be there in some capacity. I tried to enjoy the time I had with him before he went off to training for three and a half months. As the date of him leaving drew closer I did panic a bit, but he always made me feel better. What was really troubling sometimes was that he said he wanted to be with me, that he wanted to work at us and maybe get married someday. Then he would take it back, and a fight ensued. I know this is no easy situation, but it hurt to have the happiness that I felt when he told me those things being taken away from me. He’s off at basic now, and sometimes the insecurities of our past gets at me. About a month into his basic he sent me a letter saying he wanted to be with me, that being at basic has changed his perspective on things. I believe that, how do I know this time he truly means it? This is where it get’s extremely tricky, I enlisted in the army reserves and my MOS is civil affairs. If I don’t join the ROTC program it is likely my number will come up once for deployment. He knows about this and supports me; I joined on my own accord. Also, the issue about my family and my age has not been a problem since I turned 18, about seven months ago. So don’t consider that. Please tell me your thoughts; I would really like to hear from military personnel.