Confused about my feelings for boys at school (gay crushes) ...?

[heyttt]

I'm feeling so confused at the moment, because there's two boys on my mind at the moment:

1) I've had a thing for this boy for ages now (probably 4 months), and I don't know if he's noticed yet. I don't know if he's gay, but his sexuality is fairly ambiguous. I can't keep having secret feelings for him anymore - I got so depressed a couple of months ago because I felt so afraid to be myself and admit my feelings to him. I just want to tell him how I feel without putting him in a situation where he feels uncomfortable.

2) Apparently boy #2 might have a crush on me as well (he apparently has had dreams about me and says my name in his sleep sometimes). He's a nice kid, but there are a couple of minor personality traits he has which piss me off just a little bit. But he's still great and if he did have feelings for me I would be very interested in spending more time with him. It's just that I don't know how to find out if he actually does feel this way for me, or has just had weird dreams about me.

I don't know what to do.
It's so hard to admit to everything because I go to an all boys school.
All constructive advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks!
@ Mr. and/or Ms. Orla: I am 16 years old and I know I am gay for sure.
@ Lonely Girl: Are gays a race of people now? Learn to not be so ignorant before you say something like that. You said you have a brother who's gay and you think he's of a different race to you? Goddammit.
@ Lonely Girl: Don't worry, your answer was actually quite helpful. It's just that sentence which really peed me off.

 

[OrlaC]

You don't actually say how old you are, and your age and the fact that you're in an all-male environment all the time might have something to do with it.

It's very common for young people to develop same-sex crushes, and it doesn't necessarily mean they are gay because of it. It's often just a phase that young people go through, and often because there are so few people of the opposite sex in their lives.

My advice: Remain friendly with both of those guys. No need to be any more than friendly unless you are sure you want to go down this road, and they have expressed an interest in going down this road. I am of the opinion that young people can and should experiment with sexuality, as long as they do it safely. Part of being safe is knowing who you are dealing with - you need to be more sure of that ambiguous guy before you take this particular plunge. But again, it might not ever get to this.

And finally, rather than sitting around and letting feelings of depression get to you, go out and jog or walk, physical exercise is absolutely marvellous for clearing away cobwebs like this, and one of the pluses is that it's good for you also, keeps you trim and helps you sleep at night. So no more moping, off you go.

 

[LonelyGirl]

Well I understand how confusing and worrisome it must be for you. are you out about your sexuality yet? if so then it shouldn't be hard to have Friends help you approach them. my brother had the same problem. He although didn't come out till he was 20. yikes i cant imagine waiting that long and being untrue to yourself. honestly you should just trust your heart . your heart will never steer you wrong and try to become friends with them first so you can get to know them better. it would be easier for you after knowing them better. btw don't ever listen to people that make racist and horrible remarks about you being gay. there is nothing wrong with you feeling that way and it doesn't make you who you are. its just your personal preference. for example you wouldn't see someone being called "gary the straight guy" so don't even listen to the ignorance about being gay. people will never be happy about anything so know that there are people out there that accept it and don't listen to rude comments.

 

[POOH]

get out of that all boys school now ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, don't be a fag ,,,,,,,,,,, there are to many of them now ,,,,gezzzzzzzzzzzzzz