Complaining just about anything and everything. Do you sometimes feel like avoiding them fearing that they'll change your mood? Coz sometimes we go out thinking that we are gonna have fun, only to find out all i'll be hearing are things that will spoil my day coz no matter how hard i try to give a word of advice it just doesn't work.
Do you ever feel drained when you have a friend that always complains?
EllinikosKratos
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There are two known types of people: Multipliers and Dividers.
Multipliers are people who boost you and make you feel better about yourself/situations etc and they're basically happy people who know who they are and feel happy in their skin.
Dividers are people who feel the need to balance your emotional state. Imagine a graph, if you're totally at the bottom, they'll say something nice, maybe two nice things, which bring you back to the middle, if you're happy, they'll say things that hurt, or they'll make their problems your problems. Thereby bringing you back down to the middle. They're not happy with themselves, their situation or their mental attitude and this makes them a pain in the ass to hang around with.
The key is to remember, a leopard never changes it's spots, unless the leopard went through rehab or had help, he isn't ever going to stop bitching (that analogy got out of hand =/ )
Bottom Line: Live your life, not theirs. Don't take their problems as yours. "Ah, I've got this huge assignment and the college doesn't allow this, or cater for that, and my teacher is a bitch" .... "shame, you got it hard, so what we doing today?" - keep steering the convo in directions you want it to go in or drop the person!
Hope this helps!
Multipliers are people who boost you and make you feel better about yourself/situations etc and they're basically happy people who know who they are and feel happy in their skin.
Dividers are people who feel the need to balance your emotional state. Imagine a graph, if you're totally at the bottom, they'll say something nice, maybe two nice things, which bring you back to the middle, if you're happy, they'll say things that hurt, or they'll make their problems your problems. Thereby bringing you back down to the middle. They're not happy with themselves, their situation or their mental attitude and this makes them a pain in the ass to hang around with.
The key is to remember, a leopard never changes it's spots, unless the leopard went through rehab or had help, he isn't ever going to stop bitching (that analogy got out of hand =/ )
Bottom Line: Live your life, not theirs. Don't take their problems as yours. "Ah, I've got this huge assignment and the college doesn't allow this, or cater for that, and my teacher is a bitch" .... "shame, you got it hard, so what we doing today?" - keep steering the convo in directions you want it to go in or drop the person!
Hope this helps!QlBoroMamita
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YESSS and then when something exciting happens to you, you don't even want to mention it because knowing them, they'll find something negative, or, they start to complain even more about how good you got it and how miserable they are. Yupppp, I definitely know where you're coming from.
Some people just love to be miserable and complain about anything and everything in life (I have a brother like that). It's totally natural you feel as though you want to avoid this person. Try talking to them and letting them know, "hey, don't rain on my f-ing parade," and if they still complain...well just remember that misery loves company in which you're probably better off hanging out with someone else.
I had a friend like that and the fact to matter is that nobody wants to hang out wit someone who nags and crys it brings you down as well when thers nothing bothering you and it sucks i would not reccomend what i did but i totally stoped hangin out with my friend that was the same way
LoverAllAlone
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Wow, yes i actually do. And yes I do avoid him because he always makes me feel worse. And i try to make him feel better but it just makes me develop a "life is hopeless attitude"
LostInCalifornia
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YES! YES! YES!
I don't mind being around people that want to bitch about a particular situation or discuss it. I'm happy to listen because I have my own stuff, too. But some people, in general, are just very negative and on my worst day, they make me feel like Mr. Positive. People like you mention really drain the hell outta me. I used to try to show them the bright side, but I realized that they're comfortable being in their negative little world. I try to avoid them as much as I can. Brings me down big time.
I don't mind being around people that want to bitch about a particular situation or discuss it. I'm happy to listen because I have my own stuff, too. But some people, in general, are just very negative and on my worst day, they make me feel like Mr. Positive. People like you mention really drain the hell outta me. I used to try to show them the bright side, but I realized that they're comfortable being in their negative little world. I try to avoid them as much as I can. Brings me down big time.