Does arguing when you get older get tamer or more intense?

[AldousSnow]

It actually will get much worse as time goes on. Pretty soon, that's all you will ever do. On the bright side, you won't have to put out as much..

 

[CanadianmYummyMummy]

I'm assuming bc we're in our mid thirties we're still immature and have a lot of growing upto do. SO my question is for those who are married 25 plus yrs. Do you give up the arguing? Bc you can't be bothered or is it bc you both realize it's stupid to freak out on the small stuff?

I know when I was a kid my parents were really loud, there was hitting and throwing etc and then it just sort of stopped suddenly when they hit 40. So I'm curious on other couples. And for those about to freak, no my husband and I do not hit each other. But I do wish we'd both cool our jets.

 

[STFU_0123]

Well I havent been married that long, but I would think that by age 40 both have probably had all if not most of their major arguments so most common ground has been found between varying matters. Hence, when a situation arises, most likely its been something they've already dealt with so they know just how to meet in the middle and or work out those differences.
Not only that, but the couple probably doesnt even have the energy for those big blow outs anymore which is defintatly a good thing!
Sure couples will still bicker to the day they die, but I think it gets more about smaller insufficient things. Sometimes couples even get bored and or so comfortable that nagging and arguing is a natural way of communicating. Anyway, try not to fall onto that path, sounds like your doing fine and all is normal. Sooner or later, I think you'll both calm down more. For now practice trying not to argue period. Instead have more mature adult-like conversations when a matter arises. As a married couple, you wont agree on everything, but the beauty of it is finding the shade of grey.