Does arguing when you get older get tamer or more intense?

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CanadianmYummyMummy

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I'm assuming bc we're in our mid thirties we're still immature and have a lot of growing upto do. SO my question is for those who are married 25 plus yrs. Do you give up the arguing? Bc you can't be bothered or is it bc you both realize it's stupid to freak out on the small stuff?

I know when I was a kid my parents were really loud, there was hitting and throwing etc and then it just sort of stopped suddenly when they hit 40. So I'm curious on other couples. And for those about to freak, no my husband and I do not hit each other. But I do wish we'd both cool our jets.
 
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Ladybug

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In mycase we never threw anything or hit but when we ave an argument it almost turn to laughter b/c we can't beleive how stupid we both sounded and back then and now it end up with a nice hug and a kiss. lol
Take care.
 
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AldousSnow

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It actually will get much worse as time goes on. Pretty soon, that's all you will ever do. On the bright side, you won't have to put out as much..
 
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ehhh

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It really depends on the person and the environment around them/they grew up in. Some people are really mature by age 15, and some don't ever get mature.
 
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Ladybug

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In mycase we never threw anything or hit but when we ave an argument it almost turn to laughter b/c we can't beleive how stupid we both sounded and back then and now it end up with a nice hug and a kiss. lol
Take care.
 
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ehhh

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It really depends on the person and the environment around them/they grew up in. Some people are really mature by age 15, and some don't ever get mature.
 
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aGUYbeinaGUY

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We don't really have knock down drag out arguments any more.

These days the point is made very quickly and is not really open for a lot of discussion.

Persistent disagreement is for the therapist.
 
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FePerdurabo

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There's no set answer. It's your choice. You can change this anytime you want. However, what you must remember is that if you want to be in a harmonious, argument free, loving, symbiotic, spiritual relationship, then at least one of you is going to have to drop the ego and stop fighting. For my wife and I it was me. I simply refuse to argue. If she wants to go on then she can yell all she wants. I'll smile and thank her when she's done. I DO NOT get angry with my wife, ever. This has made a tremendous difference as we barely ever fight now and if we do it is over very fast.
 
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shroud

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you do seem to hit a point where you say its not worth it to argue over some stuff
and you find a different way to fight
the big thing when fighting is don't bring up the past
it really has nothing to do with whats going on and just makes things worse
 
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