Does this sound like a dangerous relationship?

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Does this sound dangerous or is he worried about me?

So I've been in love with my ex boyfriend since we were 16 years old. And now we are 21.

A few months ago I had a friend that I found out was involved in drugs. I started to get involved a little too because I felt a little depressed because of personal issues. My family started getting suspicious. I didn't tell my ex boyfriend, because I knew he would have been ashamed of me and would've been upset and started throwing things at the wall or something.

So I broke up with him so that I wouldn't have to go through telling him at some point. But he found out anyway. He called me and scolded me on the phone . It started with comforting things like "Honey, please come back home, you can explain everything to me, I won't get upset, I promise." "Whatever happens, just come home and I'll support you."
As I kept saying no, he slowly started saying stuff like this "If you hang up it won't matter because I'm going to find you at some point!" "I'll force you to come back home if I have to!"

He is the sweetest guy ever, you can tell just by looking at him. I really really love him.

Actually he has NEVER yelled at me before this.

I really really want to go back to him right now so I can get a big hug and get support. But should I even expect that?
Do you think he'll start hitting me in the face when I come home?
Or should I expect comforting?

Does he sound dangerous? Is this a sign of abuse?

I always hear that like 1 out of 4 women get into abusive relationships at some point in their life and I don't want to be one of those four. But I still feel like I can trust him and I just really want to go home and I really don't know what to do. Help?!
 
I would say no.
You answered your own question, actually.
"Actually he has NEVER yelled at me before this"
"sweetest guy ever"

You should think of it in his point of view.
Your girlfriend is missing and refusing to see you or talk to you, and no matter how much you persuade her she doesn't listen.
Would you snap?

Everyone's patience has its limit.
For one, he must have felt hurt as well because his loved one ( which is you ) did something to hurt herself and you didn't tell him anything.
He must have felt hurt.
And the fact that he said he'll force you to go back home is because he cares for you and want you back.
In my opinion, i do not think he's threatening you.
Perhaps he's just desperate to see you, that's why he kind of snapped.
Just try to think of it this way,
would you act like this if you were in his shoes?

You said it yourself,
you feel like you can trust him and you want to go home.
Follow your instinct.
And have some trust in him.

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The "i'll find you at some point" is a threat. He is dangerous. Also, you're dangerous to yourself by dating while depressed. Heal yourself hun
 
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