Im a revert with no other Muslims in my family so my friend and her husband who is my wali agreed to check out this guy to make sure we're compatible. Keep in mind that im still a student and my wali and his wife dont actually live in my hometown they live in the city I go to school in and since I go home pretty frequently and my wali and his wife are both fairly busy its not as easy to get in touch with them so that I can have them monitor my phone calls visits etc and the guy Im interested in lives on another side of the country. So my question is if my wali isnt available to monitor our phone calls, text messages and e-mail would it be permissible for me to do them in the presence of his wife? (for phone calls she could be on 3 way, all emails would be forwarded to her then sent to my potential husband, and she would also monitor all incoming and outgoing text messages). And is it permissible for me to send him phone calls emails and text messages with my wali constantly checking them to make sure we arent doing anything haram? Also, in the instance that my potential husband comes to visit and my wali isnt available to chaperone us may another person man or woman be the chaperone? Jazakallah Khair!!