Every night both me and my girlfriend have spent the night together by ourselves, we've had sex. I spent the past weekend with my girlfriend camping at a beach. The first night we were kissing a lot and i started making more moves on to her. she then told me to stop and that she doesn't want to have sex, because I was "forcing her". Previously this week she didn't want to because it hurt her vagina because we had just had sex a lot for two days. We did anyways, and she cried while we had sex. I didn't know this at the time, since she was covering her face which confused me. she told me afterward that she was crying and that she didn't really want to have sex. She only did it for me. I told her i was sorry and would have stopped if i knew. We ended up having sex again but she threw me off because it hurt her so bad. So...I think she was mad at me the first night we were camping because of this, which is why she said i was forcing her. In reality i wasn't though because she wanted to but dealt with the pain. So the second day we end up going to the beach and i drove so she could drink. I end up drinking too much, so she had to get sober and drive. She was really pissed about it. The second day we end up getting drunk at the campsite and shes being nice to me and pretty much shows affection to me with kisses and holding my hand and stuff. So we end up going to bed and i try kissing her but she doesn't want to. I ask her why and she tells me that she's mad at me about getting drunk when i was going to drive and that she had to stop drinking. I'm wondering, is our relationship falling apart? If so, what should I do? I know i was an asshole and apologized to her. I tried making it up to her by driving her home which is a 4 hour drive.
Girlfriend hasnt wanted sex recently...i'm unsure if our relationship is in trouble?
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Moony3005231
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No, your relationship isn't falling apart.
It's just a few minor issues. You already KNOW why she is refusing sex with you---the drunk thing / driving issue, how it hurt her last time (big issue), and she may be a bit held back now because she felt you were forcing yourself on her that other time.
Give it time, be extra sweet to her, and you'll be having sex again in no time.
If you blow this out of proportion, you MAY risk a breakup (at worst) or a lengthened time of celibacy (at best).
It's just a few minor issues. You already KNOW why she is refusing sex with you---the drunk thing / driving issue, how it hurt her last time (big issue), and she may be a bit held back now because she felt you were forcing yourself on her that other time.
Give it time, be extra sweet to her, and you'll be having sex again in no time.
If you blow this out of proportion, you MAY risk a breakup (at worst) or a lengthened time of celibacy (at best).
Eaglesfan85
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Good question... your relationship is fine, you just need to ask her every time you want to have sex and make sure she wants it too. Even if she says yes completely make sure that she wants too because you said she sometimes says yes just to do it for you so you have to make sure. Say are you sure you want to? Say something like "I wont do it if you don't want to." And if she still says yes than go for it. Also girls like to have sex but not as much as guys do so you should do some things that women like her would like. Like be romantic bring her out to the beach for the sunset alone hold her hand, you know something like that. Your relationship is fine just cut down on the sex.