My girlfriend is on BC. I don't use a condom, I pull out instead. But she has a few scary symptoms: She's cramping, her boobs hurt, she has lower back pain, she frequently has to pee, she has mild food cravings (she usually has them anyway), and she's been very tired. Her period is 2 weeks late. That would mean she is about 6 weeks into the pregnancy at this point. With her symptoms I am convinced I have a kid on the way. She keeps putting off the pregnancy test, and it really is pissing me off. I wanted her to do it yesterday but she wouldn't. She told me she would do it this morning, but she hasn't yet.
We talked about our options. I told her I wanted to abort it, but she will not abort it. We talked about this whole thing for a good two hours and I've been thinking about it constantly the last 3 days. We decided that if she is pregnant, we are going to give it up for adoption.
I'm supposed to be going to college 4,000 miles away in Hawaii this fall, and she is still in high school (she is graduating after first semester next school year). I told her I had her back with any decision she makes, so I plan on somehow pulling out of hawaii and instead enrolling in the local community college. She doesn't want to hold me back from going to Hawaii and is opposed to the idea of me staying here. She feels that if I stay here she will feel like shit for keeping me from pursuing my education (but this is equally my fault) and that I will begin to "hate" her for it.
But I feel compelled that it is my responsibility to her and the child to stay here with her through her pregnancy. I'm not going to be a deadbeat dad. I love her and I am going to take care of her, whether she likes it or not.
This is so fucked up... I never thought this would happen to me. I am so fucking dumb. I've had the scenario of a teen pregnancy pounded into my head by priests and teachers and parents for years. I keep asking myself how could two honors/AP class students ignore the warnings, but still have sex and end up getting pregnant, and I can't come up with a good answer.
If you have any tips on getting through this such as how to deal with teen pregnancy issues (especially parents), please PM me.
BTW, I'm 18, she is 17 (legal consent in IL is 17) and if she is pregnant (I will know for sure tomorrow morning) this will be a "pre-cum baby" that occurred when she forgot to take the pill.