modigliana
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ok, so let me just say, i'd never had a serious relationship before, cos i was always scared of rejection, or i wasnt interested, or i wasnt attracted or or or....and I'm 27 btw ( i know, it's weird)..but ive now been in a relationship for over 7 months, which is aaah...a ..miracle!!.. the guy put a looot of effort into getting with me, and he's awesome in a lot of ways. he's good looking, treats me like a queen, is generous with me, he's protective but not possessive, he's smart, he's ambitious and very driven, he has a firm head on his shoulders, as in he knows what he wants and goes for it..
we talk alot, so it's not like we have awkward silences, he's supportive and i know i can rely on him..
all fine and dandy right?..yes..
the thing is am attracted to him, i look fwd to seeing him and love being with him....but, i don't think he's very funny, and the same goes for him, i don't think he finds me hilarious....
ok, it's not like he never makes me laugh cos he does...but when i compare him to some guy friends i have, hes not as funny..
and not to blow my own horn, but i know am funny, well my friends at least think i am....and i don't think he thinks am that funny..
is it seriously an issue?...we have a very good time together, and we have fun, it's not like we're always serious..but i feel like my humour is wasted on him, and same with me....sometimes i just don't find what he says that funny either...
am i overreacting?...i mean, everything is so great apart from that....am i asking for too much and idealising relationships...like everything should be just perfect?..
or is it really the case, that even if we get along so well, the fact that we have different senses of humor means this can never be, or we'll be missing out on one of the greatest joys of life?
i feel like such a drama queen but help!!!!
awesome answers! thank you so much...always feel like am trying to sabotage myself...
and being told that i might just be the fussiest female out there and i can forget about finding a mix of brad pitt and sasha cohen is very reassuring, at least i now know that i should just calm the eff down and enjoy what i have. no seriously thanks alot
i vow to de-fussify myself!
we talk alot, so it's not like we have awkward silences, he's supportive and i know i can rely on him..
all fine and dandy right?..yes..
the thing is am attracted to him, i look fwd to seeing him and love being with him....but, i don't think he's very funny, and the same goes for him, i don't think he finds me hilarious....
ok, it's not like he never makes me laugh cos he does...but when i compare him to some guy friends i have, hes not as funny..
and not to blow my own horn, but i know am funny, well my friends at least think i am....and i don't think he thinks am that funny..
is it seriously an issue?...we have a very good time together, and we have fun, it's not like we're always serious..but i feel like my humour is wasted on him, and same with me....sometimes i just don't find what he says that funny either...
am i overreacting?...i mean, everything is so great apart from that....am i asking for too much and idealising relationships...like everything should be just perfect?..
or is it really the case, that even if we get along so well, the fact that we have different senses of humor means this can never be, or we'll be missing out on one of the greatest joys of life?
i feel like such a drama queen but help!!!!
awesome answers! thank you so much...always feel like am trying to sabotage myself...
and being told that i might just be the fussiest female out there and i can forget about finding a mix of brad pitt and sasha cohen is very reassuring, at least i now know that i should just calm the eff down and enjoy what i have. no seriously thanks alot
i vow to de-fussify myself!