livellaughllove<3
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My dad wife has been a real b+++++ to me. Im 14 and my dad has a court order that i have to go over there every other weekend. don't get me wrong i love to see my dad but then i have to see her. she has been in our life for about 3 years and it has been this way since they have been married. She is really immature and has no self confidence. She has yelled at my sister worse than my dad and mom yelled at her together. (btw my sister is 11)Also she threw my phone and it almost broke(half the keys froze) She has no children of her own. Me and my sister have gone to therapy together and with my dad. My dad knows that we don't like her. She has cause so much stress for my sister and me over the summer break we went on a trip w/ her and my dad and she was really mean because of that my sister had problems eating for 8 weeks and at some times didn't eat at all. For me she has put so much stress on me that it is hard to pay attention and i some times suffer from anxiety issues. So how do i deal with my stress along with my step mom?
also my dad is against just doing something with just my sister, me and him.
any help would be great thanks
i have talked to her and my dad and her we have had family meeting my dad thinks that she has done nothing wrong.
she just moved to my state about the time she start to see my dad so after she moved here they meet at a wedding my parent has been divorsed about 5 years and my mom is happy and re married
i tell my mom everything that goes on at my dad's house and every thing that she does. and yes my dad is stuborn!
also my dad is against just doing something with just my sister, me and him.
any help would be great thanks
i have talked to her and my dad and her we have had family meeting my dad thinks that she has done nothing wrong.
she just moved to my state about the time she start to see my dad so after she moved here they meet at a wedding my parent has been divorsed about 5 years and my mom is happy and re married
i tell my mom everything that goes on at my dad's house and every thing that she does. and yes my dad is stuborn!
this isnt much help.
but we are verrrry similiar.
im 14 with an 11 year old sister too!
my mom and dad arent together so we did the whole court thing.
and we go to his house every other weekend, tuesday and thursday nights.
and we dont like the step mom either.
so i dont have much advice, because i dont know what to do myself,
but just so you know.
you're not alone.
but we are verrrry similiar.
im 14 with an 11 year old sister too!
my mom and dad arent together so we did the whole court thing.
and we go to his house every other weekend, tuesday and thursday nights.
and we dont like the step mom either.
so i dont have much advice, because i dont know what to do myself,
but just so you know.
you're not alone.
Sit down with your father and her and explain what is going on, and how it makes you feel. Give it a few weeks and if things do not improve talk to your mom about it. She may be able to help the situation out.
Also don't take it the wrong way that your is against doing something with just the 2 of his girls. I'm sure he means well, and just wants to bring everything closer.
Best of luck to you. I hope they'll figure something out since it sounds like you girls have gone through enough.
Also don't take it the wrong way that your is against doing something with just the 2 of his girls. I'm sure he means well, and just wants to bring everything closer.
Best of luck to you. I hope they'll figure something out since it sounds like you girls have gone through enough.
The best thing for you to do is go to a trusted adult and tell them. It kind of sounds like abuse to an extent. So if there is a teacher or school nurse that you trust, go to them, let them know what's goin on and they can make sure that you get help with this.
It isn't right how she's treating you or your sister. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
go talk to one of your teachers. as soon as possible
It isn't right how she's treating you or your sister. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
go talk to one of your teachers. as soon as possible
I really feel for you. I also had a terrible step mother. The difference here seems to be that your dad is much more involved with you and your sister and genuinely seems to care. I suggest you tell your dad, and it may be good to do this during a therapy session, that you refuse to go to his house and be subjected to his wife's abuse. Let him know you love him and always will, but that since he is not able to protect you and your sister from the abuse you need to do what is right for you. Tell him you will not go to his house until his wife has learned to deal with her anger issues and not unleash them on children. Tell him you are open to suggestions from him so that you and your sister continue to have a relationship with him.
Have you told your mother about this problem? If your dad is stubborn about it perhaps your mother needs to go back to the courts.
Have you told your mother about this problem? If your dad is stubborn about it perhaps your mother needs to go back to the courts.
Is there any possibility that you hate her because you think she broke up your mom and dad and maybe you're mean or difficult to her? It seems weird that she's horrible to you for no reason. Maybe if you tried not rolling your eyes and acting like you can't stand being near her she'd be nicer to you.
I feel for you. I went thru the same thing except with a step dad. My dad died when I was 7 and when my mom remarried, the monster moved into my house. I am 27 now and I still dont get along with him. Have you tried talking to your dad about this? I know that never worked for me. But it is worth a shot for you. It is so hard to be in broken families and with ur step mom not having kids, it makes it worse on you. I feel for you, hon. I hope things get better for you and ur sister and hopefully ur dad will wake up and realize what she is doing to you both. Good Luck!!! Hope things get better soon!!