HollySetowski
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I'm hoping it keeps your interest!!? My very first semester of college, I met this amazing guy in one of my classes. I'll say his name is Ben. He was a sophomore transfer student. We hit it off amazingly, we loved the same kinds of music, we both had really crappy things happen to us growing up, and we pretty much had the same personality. We had a really deep connection. I could open up to him what I couldn't open up to others, and he told me all kinds of things that were hard for him to talk about as well. He made me burned CDs of great music and always opened the door for me (I've never had that before!) We also fooled around and took it pretty fast, which may have been a bad thing in the long run.
Anyway, things were going wonderfully until a guy I used to have strong feelings for back home (lets go with Kyle) suddenly professed his love for me and how we would be perfect together. He even came all the way up to my school and knocked on my dorm door at 2am just to talk to me. I used to like him a lot, but never thought he liked me, so I was in the process of moving on. Also, he was a bit obsessive about it.
Needless to say I was torn, I didn't know Ben that well but he seemed amazing, and then there was Kyle who I'd been attached to for awhile and knew very well. To avoid hurting anyone, I decided to tell both of them I didn't want a relationship right now and needed to be by myself for awhile, but I wanted to remain friends.
Kyle was pissed off for awhile, but we've been best friends forever, and soon went back to friend status. Over time, after Kyle got so mad at me, I realized that it was Ben who I really felt the most for, and I told him that, and we hung out a lot and went on dates, fooled around, but never officially dated.
And then things sort of ended, he didn't text me as much, and eventually asked me to dinner so we could talk about things, because he didn't know if he wanted to take our relationship any further. Because we weren't dating, I was humble about the whole thing, and told him I felt like things were different anyway, and I appreciated his honesty. I told him I was fine with remaining friends. He told me he thought everything was great in the beginning, but "really started thinking" after the first time I told him I didn't really want a relationship.
So, we chalked it up to that, "we moved really fast because we didn't know that many people at school and were really enthusiastic about meeting someone so much like the other, but we really didnt know each other that well", and we remained friends. We still studied together for the class we shared, and always had the longest conversations humanly possible.
Over my winter break, I realized I missed him a lot, and maybe it wasn't that initial enthusiasm after all. I didn't text him much though because I didn't want to give myself away. He texted me though a few times randomly (and i never expected him to) asking how I was and everything, and I even helped him in finding an on campus job through one of my friends. now back at school, I ran into him the other day and seemed really excited to see me. He even asked me to hang out again. I talked to him a bit, and then told him to text me whenever he was free.
I was always really friendly, but never too much and annoying, because I know that drives away guys really quick. Sorry this is so long, but I am just sort of a clueless romantic haha.
Should I try to set something up myself? Or should I wait for him to get back to me? Do any of you guys think I still have a chance? Basically, how should I go about it?
Anyway, things were going wonderfully until a guy I used to have strong feelings for back home (lets go with Kyle) suddenly professed his love for me and how we would be perfect together. He even came all the way up to my school and knocked on my dorm door at 2am just to talk to me. I used to like him a lot, but never thought he liked me, so I was in the process of moving on. Also, he was a bit obsessive about it.
Needless to say I was torn, I didn't know Ben that well but he seemed amazing, and then there was Kyle who I'd been attached to for awhile and knew very well. To avoid hurting anyone, I decided to tell both of them I didn't want a relationship right now and needed to be by myself for awhile, but I wanted to remain friends.
Kyle was pissed off for awhile, but we've been best friends forever, and soon went back to friend status. Over time, after Kyle got so mad at me, I realized that it was Ben who I really felt the most for, and I told him that, and we hung out a lot and went on dates, fooled around, but never officially dated.
And then things sort of ended, he didn't text me as much, and eventually asked me to dinner so we could talk about things, because he didn't know if he wanted to take our relationship any further. Because we weren't dating, I was humble about the whole thing, and told him I felt like things were different anyway, and I appreciated his honesty. I told him I was fine with remaining friends. He told me he thought everything was great in the beginning, but "really started thinking" after the first time I told him I didn't really want a relationship.
So, we chalked it up to that, "we moved really fast because we didn't know that many people at school and were really enthusiastic about meeting someone so much like the other, but we really didnt know each other that well", and we remained friends. We still studied together for the class we shared, and always had the longest conversations humanly possible.
Over my winter break, I realized I missed him a lot, and maybe it wasn't that initial enthusiasm after all. I didn't text him much though because I didn't want to give myself away. He texted me though a few times randomly (and i never expected him to) asking how I was and everything, and I even helped him in finding an on campus job through one of my friends. now back at school, I ran into him the other day and seemed really excited to see me. He even asked me to hang out again. I talked to him a bit, and then told him to text me whenever he was free.
I was always really friendly, but never too much and annoying, because I know that drives away guys really quick. Sorry this is so long, but I am just sort of a clueless romantic haha.
Should I try to set something up myself? Or should I wait for him to get back to me? Do any of you guys think I still have a chance? Basically, how should I go about it?