How do you get your husband to give you more attention without yelling at him lol?

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Mersadiez

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Me & my hubby need more time together. Im lonely & need more us time. Every time I bring it up it just makes me upset. How do I ask for more alone time & not look like im am being a jerk. Hes very busy but so am I. He acts annoyed when I talk about it. I yell & give up. How do you talk to your guys out there?
 
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amiboo

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Well yelling at him is exactly the wrong way to do it. It will only make him want to be around you less, not more. You want him to enjoy spending time with you. Now obviously your married so there are the day to day things that aren't fun but try to avoid nagging and being a drama queen.

Sometimes when you talk to a guy about this sort of thing he feels at best that he isn't good enough to make you happy or worst that you are attacking him which makes him defensive and that generally leads to him being argumentative. or just shutting down.

Try a more positive approach, ask for specific action not generalizations. For example, How about we get season tickets the local baseball team and start going to their games? or Remember how much fun we used to have when we were dating? Lets start having a date night every other Sat night. Try to work in something he enjoys (baseball for example) as well as things you enjoy. With this approach you're telling him exactly what you want instead of general "I want to spend more time together" which doesn't really spell it out for him. Guys don't like guessing games.
 
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heck45

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Ignore him. Find something better to do with your time then wait on him. Stop calling and texting ten million times a day and stop hovering and jumping every time they need something and sooner or later they will wonder what your doing and why your not so needy and become insecure and want to come find text call and spend time with you. the longer you do this the longer they will respond this way.
 
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mariekitt24

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seriously read the book "Men are from mars, women are from venus" by john gray (or grey?) That book will teach you what you want to know. I recommend it all the time on here, because I know it helped me soo much. You can find a super cheap used copy on amazon I think. This book has exactly what you need in it. Have your hubby read it too.. it saves relationships!
 
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Karin1

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Instead of just saying that you need more alone time... try making a spin on the request... so it doesn't seem like, "I need more time with you". Figure out something that you both enjoy doing... going out to eat, movies, biking, hiking... whatever it is and ask him if her would be interested in going with you OR the two of your going together.

I would definitely be the one to come up with an idea, ask him and then follow through with the necessary steps like choosing a date, time etc. Then follow through with it.

Hopefully, this way he won't feel overwhelmed and you won't feel like a nag; but you two will be able to spend some fun, quality time together!
 
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