if you like him because he is shy and quiet, do you think you can fix him so he isn't shy and quiet any more? if you do fix him, will you still like him. if he was a super stud and always hitting on chicks, do you think he would settle for you? in other words, you may have to be a little more aggressive to get his attention. you gotta take the whole package and not try to weed out his shortcomings.