Anonymous1
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- Jul 22, 2008
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I am not a user myself and am worried sick about the effects of my brother's cocaine usage every moment of the day. I have seen him use it once, and it seems he kept it away from me for a year, as he's claimed to doing it all along. He is constantly exuberant, restless, and sniffing the air, as well as anxious and paranoid that I'll try to talk to him about something pertaining to drugs.
I do not know the frequency of his usage though he claims it is once every few weeks only. My brother has been known to "try" heavy drugs in the past but not keep on with them--he believes he has a high tolerance for these things and can stop whenever. The only problem is--he hasn't.
I was with him at a party once and he seemed to expect there would be cocaine there and was disappointed when there wasn't (though he attempted to pretend as though he wasn't at all concerned after the look on my face).
I have read that heavy users are highly manipulative and my brother has been increasingly secretive and I feel it affecting our relationship. I am disappointed that he does not trust my judgment any more. In the past I have been extremely supportive of his decisions and I'm quite sure that is why he chose to disclose his cocaine usage to me.
I tried talking to him on several accounts (once lightly, then in a more concerned manner) but he got angry and defensive and said that it was "normal" and not worse than anybody he knew. When I asked how he would feel if it were I he gave no answer. It's as if I can see fear in his eyes when I mention anything. My brother has always been very reserved so he doesn't let on about important things and thinks he can deal with everything on his own.
My brother is not the type to get caught--as in, I don't think he'll ever end up in jail and have a life-changing experience there (which I wouldn't want anyways, I'd rather he understand the danger/consequences on his own). He is fairly well-off and lives alone.
It seems I am one of the people he cares most strongly about and respects and I would somehow like to use that to my advantage, but he cowers from criticism.
If only somehow he got high one night and attacked me because of increasing paranoia and I fell and broke my leg, then he would quit out of guilt of hurting the one he loves... that seems to be the only solution I can think of.
I am looking for opinions on how I can approach his addiction before it becomes too late. Any help is dearly appreciated. I hope I have given enough background information.
I do not know the frequency of his usage though he claims it is once every few weeks only. My brother has been known to "try" heavy drugs in the past but not keep on with them--he believes he has a high tolerance for these things and can stop whenever. The only problem is--he hasn't.
I was with him at a party once and he seemed to expect there would be cocaine there and was disappointed when there wasn't (though he attempted to pretend as though he wasn't at all concerned after the look on my face).
I have read that heavy users are highly manipulative and my brother has been increasingly secretive and I feel it affecting our relationship. I am disappointed that he does not trust my judgment any more. In the past I have been extremely supportive of his decisions and I'm quite sure that is why he chose to disclose his cocaine usage to me.
I tried talking to him on several accounts (once lightly, then in a more concerned manner) but he got angry and defensive and said that it was "normal" and not worse than anybody he knew. When I asked how he would feel if it were I he gave no answer. It's as if I can see fear in his eyes when I mention anything. My brother has always been very reserved so he doesn't let on about important things and thinks he can deal with everything on his own.
My brother is not the type to get caught--as in, I don't think he'll ever end up in jail and have a life-changing experience there (which I wouldn't want anyways, I'd rather he understand the danger/consequences on his own). He is fairly well-off and lives alone.
It seems I am one of the people he cares most strongly about and respects and I would somehow like to use that to my advantage, but he cowers from criticism.
If only somehow he got high one night and attacked me because of increasing paranoia and I fell and broke my leg, then he would quit out of guilt of hurting the one he loves... that seems to be the only solution I can think of.
I am looking for opinions on how I can approach his addiction before it becomes too late. Any help is dearly appreciated. I hope I have given enough background information.