GermanNationalist
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...creditibility how do I end it? Hello all, I am a 19 year old guy, and I have had the unfortunate luck of getting a gay rumour. I believe the rumour started at a party where an old friend of mine got sick and told me to help him to the bathroom, I myself was also very drunk at the time, and I helped him outside where he started puking, I told him that I always help him like I have always done ever since we sat next to each other in class, to me and hopefully also my friend there was never anything homoerotic in this event, but some guys in the background overhead this and interpreted this to me being gay, I did'nt pay any notice that night, and partied onward. Days later I noticed my friends even the guy throwing up was backing away from me, I found this peculiar but did'nt pay it no thought. Looking back I wish I had known then, as an early debunk of the rumour might have dramatically changed my situation, but I didnt.
A year went by, and looking back I now see how the rumour spread and spread, and with every increasing number the rumour became self evident, as I imagine people thought "if 3 different people tell me the same rumour it must be true" and it spread untill all my friends had heard it and only a few gave me the benefit of the doubt, in fact only 2 of my friends looked through the rumour and defended my sexuality.
Yesterday I was out bowling and bar drinking with 15 of my friends both girls and boys, and I went to the toilet to take a piss and when I came back, I heard a loud joke from on of my friends saying "Watch out if you dont watch him he's gonna kiss you" followed by a shared laugh, and I entered the room and was greeted by complete silence, and I sat down, and thought to myself that I need to do something about this rumour now, as they were obivously mocking me behind my back. It is simply becoming to destructive for me. I need to act.
Another peculiar incident from yesterdays evening was when I commented on the music, as we were listening to Joaquin Phoenix singing Johnny Cash songs, and I said "Its a shame its Joaquin Phoenix and not Johnny Cash" a comment which was met by an awkward silence, obivously from them creating homoerotic references from my sentence.
So I am here to collect suggestions, thoughts and ideas on this matter. Some ideas of my own are to look into restarting the relationship with my exgirlfriend, even though I find her slightly annoying, just for the sake of debunking the rumour.
I also thought of an open confrontation with my friends, but I fear it might only have little impact seeing as how they are already mocking me behind my back.
Only one thing is certain, I have had enough, im tired of being greeted by giggles when my friends introduce me to a girl, and im tired of my friends guilty looks and slightly paranoid and scared conversations and actions.
Please help me.
Also pay no mind to my avatar and name, I tend to play a fictional character when I am answering questions here.
A year went by, and looking back I now see how the rumour spread and spread, and with every increasing number the rumour became self evident, as I imagine people thought "if 3 different people tell me the same rumour it must be true" and it spread untill all my friends had heard it and only a few gave me the benefit of the doubt, in fact only 2 of my friends looked through the rumour and defended my sexuality.
Yesterday I was out bowling and bar drinking with 15 of my friends both girls and boys, and I went to the toilet to take a piss and when I came back, I heard a loud joke from on of my friends saying "Watch out if you dont watch him he's gonna kiss you" followed by a shared laugh, and I entered the room and was greeted by complete silence, and I sat down, and thought to myself that I need to do something about this rumour now, as they were obivously mocking me behind my back. It is simply becoming to destructive for me. I need to act.
Another peculiar incident from yesterdays evening was when I commented on the music, as we were listening to Joaquin Phoenix singing Johnny Cash songs, and I said "Its a shame its Joaquin Phoenix and not Johnny Cash" a comment which was met by an awkward silence, obivously from them creating homoerotic references from my sentence.
So I am here to collect suggestions, thoughts and ideas on this matter. Some ideas of my own are to look into restarting the relationship with my exgirlfriend, even though I find her slightly annoying, just for the sake of debunking the rumour.
I also thought of an open confrontation with my friends, but I fear it might only have little impact seeing as how they are already mocking me behind my back.
Only one thing is certain, I have had enough, im tired of being greeted by giggles when my friends introduce me to a girl, and im tired of my friends guilty looks and slightly paranoid and scared conversations and actions.
Please help me.
Also pay no mind to my avatar and name, I tend to play a fictional character when I am answering questions here.