i have no friends due to some nasty rumours!?

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I really don't have any friends!
I'm 24 and have a 2 year old

I hardly go out (apart from shopping and to the park etc for the little one) but thats all!

I have no confidence, I'm always skint, can never be able to buy new clothes for myself/get my hair done

I don't feel happy with myself... I'm always in pain with my back (painkillers make me feel sick)

I feel quite depressed, only people I really talk to is my neighbours and family ( they must think im a right loner!)

Ever since some nasty rumours flew around my old friends stick their noses up at me & the other friends have slowly faded away,

The rumours wern't even true!
I do have proof of the rumours

I don't drink or smoke so i dont go out clubbing or to pubs

I rarely get a break from the little one so hes with me all the time,

There's nothing really to do in the day apart from the park

my social skills are really bad!

any advice or tips?

please be nice
I don't work, i'm a full time mom

and the rumours were about my partner saying he is a peadofile, stalker, wifebeater etc
 
WEll WORK ON UR SOCiAl SKiLLS;

i MEAN SERiOUSlY WHAT DO YOU HAVE 2 lOSE?

YOU SHOUlD HAVE FRiENDS AT WORK, HANG OUT WiTH THEM MORE.

iTS REAllY EASY 2 MEET PPl. JUST BE CONFiDENT.
 
Never, let peoples approval control your life. You see, if you must have their approval, then when they withdraw it, wala u are manipulated.

So, first gain your sense of self worth from what you know to be true about yourself. Be independent and be the person you want.

It is a tough job raising a child, however, there are lots of mothers who do. When you get some free time, like when your parents are watching the child, then get involved in some activity you enjoy.

Now, it may not be the bar scene, but just explore the possibilities. I was single for some time, and I realized this. I made it much harder on myself by isolating myself on purpose. Sure theres some things you wont want to do, like eat in restaraunt by yourself. Still, there are many organizations, charities, and places to get involved.

Learn to enjoy your life without need for approval. Sometimes parents accidentally instill a strong sense of that in us, but it can make us live our life based on what we think others approve for us.

So, life is like this sometimes. You find yourself in certain phases. Heres the key, its always only temporary, if u pick up and move on in positive direction.

You have a child to raise, maybe a career to think about, and you need some sort of social life.

My best personal advice is to find a church an start goin to the singles program.

One day, you need to call one of your friends you trust, and tell them you want to talk about the rumor thing, and that it wasnt true and that it kinda hurt u that everyone thought that.
 
Never, let peoples approval control your life. You see, if you must have their approval, then when they withdraw it, wala u are manipulated.

So, first gain your sense of self worth from what you know to be true about yourself. Be independent and be the person you want.

It is a tough job raising a child, however, there are lots of mothers who do. When you get some free time, like when your parents are watching the child, then get involved in some activity you enjoy.

Now, it may not be the bar scene, but just explore the possibilities. I was single for some time, and I realized this. I made it much harder on myself by isolating myself on purpose. Sure theres some things you wont want to do, like eat in restaraunt by yourself. Still, there are many organizations, charities, and places to get involved.

Learn to enjoy your life without need for approval. Sometimes parents accidentally instill a strong sense of that in us, but it can make us live our life based on what we think others approve for us.

So, life is like this sometimes. You find yourself in certain phases. Heres the key, its always only temporary, if u pick up and move on in positive direction.

You have a child to raise, maybe a career to think about, and you need some sort of social life.

My best personal advice is to find a church an start goin to the singles program.

One day, you need to call one of your friends you trust, and tell them you want to talk about the rumor thing, and that it wasnt true and that it kinda hurt u that everyone thought that.
 
I am a Holistic Healer and I think I might be able to help. I will give you my thoughts on your question.

Rumors: I would go to your friends and tell them. It might be hard but it's good to get rumors cleared up. Tell them that all the nasty rumors are not true. If they refuse to listen, there is a alternative.

Making New Friends: Making new friends is a great way to be able to talk to people and not be lonely. I will give you a few tips to making new friends.

Talking In Front Of A Mirror: If you need help practicing, practice in front of a mirror! it can really help when you need to touch up on your Charisma. If you make a slip up, then nobody will know!.

Getting Confidence: Lots of people do not have confidence. There is ways to get it. Getting out there and not caring about it. Doing things with your two year old, outside the home to build your confidence.

Social Skills: Building up your social is something that everyone has a slip up on. So no worries. Just try to talk to others to build it.

Nothing To Do: As you build friends, there will be things to do. Even if you don't yet, then I advise you to go to these links. They are things you do with your kids.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xSmkK3MD4p0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BFAAkc-g5RE&feature=related

Liking To Be By Yourself: It's nothing wrong for you to like to stay to yourself. If you like taking care of your two year old and all the good stuff, that's okay.

Being In Pain: I would not take the painkillers anymore. I heard they are not good for your health. I would lye down most of the time to let your back rest. So you can be safe.

Getting Out: I would maybe take your two year old to the mall maybe. Or find a group of mom's who are having the same worries as you.

Best Wishes ;-)
 
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