family and I'm can't deal with the packing? and planning of it, I begin to worry about what clothing to take and I'm afraid I might forget something and I get real nervous, when I was younger I had no anxieties about going visiting. Part of the reason is my weight, but I lost 39 lbs with weight loss surgery but I still dont feel comfortable with myself, I feel if I had the time to lose another 20-25 lbs I would feel better with myself, but my husband and his family just want to go, my husband knows how I feel but his family dont, I have postponed a few vacations because of this, what should I do ,any suggestions, serious replies only please thank you