i need someone to talk to...i need to vent, could you just answer and tell...

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Nikki:t

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...me something about what i wrote? ok my family is really stupid! my brother gets all the attention...i get on the b honor roll and whenever my mom talks to people its always: "well davids (my brother) medication is doing so much! he has lost so much weight! im so proud of him!!" and my dad "my son is in football, basketball, and hes pretty smart too. hes going to follow right in my footsteps!" and what do i hear about me...well the person that they were talking to says "well thats great...what about Nicole, hows she doing? my mom and dad say "whats to say, shes the same...average.." is that unfair or what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and my friends call me anorexic, depressed (which im not!) and that just adds up to my problems... and then they won't let me use my computer untill (i got it back) i clean my room...but what does david have to do to get his psp back? NOTHING!! IT PISSES ME OFF! and my mom cleans my brothers room and spoils him! i can't join knowledge bowl (20 dollar entry fee) but my brother can join: football basketball wrestling baseball...and he got invited to knowledge bowl and my parents let him join!!!!!!!!! i didn't get a cellphone untill 8th grade (which im in now) and he got one last year (when he was in 4th grade) i have to do the dishwasher in order for me to text, and my brother does nothing!!!!!!!!!! i do all the outdoor chores (live on a farm with a lot of animals) and my brother does nothing!!!!!!!!!! IT PISSES ME OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! well sorry...i needed to vent...
 
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misa

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I'm a really skinny girl in 8th grade who gets beaten up by an (just turned) 8 years old everyday. And i can't hit back. I know how it feels to have a spoiled sibling and how it feels to have siblings your parents practically worship leaving you alone in a corner...

You brother sounds spoiled. Don't worry, the spoiled children never get far in life.
 
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cassiej

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They should be proud of you. He's younger sorry to say but it happens they get more attention and get away with more. You should let them know how you feel. Sit down and be calm. Oh your friends should know you..they should trust that your not those things. If they keep bothering you, you need to tell them where to go. Venting is good....keeps you from going crazy
 
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ChrisH

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just chill man wait it out he'll be so used to getting things handed to him he's going to be screwed when he moves out but you'll have learned to work for things and yeah
 
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JoeF

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I think I'd raise h-e double hockey sticks hon and tell your parents what you told us, they NEED to hear it.
I am proud of you though, not everyone makes B honor roll and I hope you keep at it hon.If no one else praises you for the hard work you have done, I will.You hang in there.
 
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slip

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ROTF!!!!!!! WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope you feel better and good luck wit that. Whatever you do though, dont kill anyone.
 
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Josa

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Hi, It certainly does sound unfair. I used to work with families and I had a client that had 13 children. She did the same thing with her kids. I had the oldest girl write down, for one week, all the chores that each child did that week, what, if any punishments were given and for what. Any rewards for good behavior etc. When I went back, it looked like Mary was the one that was carrying the load. You could do the same thing. Then, ask your parents to sit down with you and present you 'findings'. Ask them to let you present your side before they say anything. That way the train of thought does not get broken. See if you can get them to even out everything. I have experienced that parents, especially Mother's, don't expect their boys to do much. It is the 'old deal' that boys will grow up to be men, they'll work and support their families, and their wife will do the housework. I worked in family counseling etc., for 12 years. It's a shame that this still happens but, it does. There are always two reasons parents want their children to do chores --- to get the job done and to help the children grow. If children don't do chores, how do they learn? How do they build personal responsibility?

Check these sites out: http://www.lotsofkids.com/LOK-Household/Articles/chores.php.
This is a good one: http://organizedhome.com/family-ties/kids-chores-chilling-chore-wars
And: http://kids.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Family_Chore_Charts.

Read this but, pay attention to the third paragraph
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/71728.php

I hope you can get things worked out. JOSA
 
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