Is childbirth class worth attending-or is there a good DVD substitute? Is it

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common to attend alone? I'm due 1/1/11. My husband doesn't want to "waste a whole weekend" attending childbirth classes. This is the class at the hospital I'm giving birth at:
http://www.momease.com/index.php?pr=Prepared_Childbirth

Is it really worth it to attend a class like this...or is there some sort of DVD we could buy that would be equivalent that we could watch at home on our own time?

Would it be wierd if I attended alone, without my husband? He doesn't see why he would need to go, since I'm "the one giving birth, not him". Is it common for women to attend alone?
Thanks! Also, it's $180.00....that I could spend on something else we really need, like a stroller, etc., you know?
Thanks for the rec's Village! Yeah, if it wasn't hunting season, he would be more likely to go, lol!
Yeah, he has relented, and said he would go, but I know him very well, and I think if he goes when he doesn't really want to, he's going to be in a grumpy mood and be all grumpy and pouty, and I really don't want to deal with that...
 
When I had my son I attended alone! My mom came with me a couple of times. If this is your first baby then I would go even if it's by your self. Maybe if your mom or best friend will want to come they can. You really need someone with you that you can rely on during the birth. I would find someone in your life that will be your support. I would also let your husband have it! What he said is insensitive. It is his baby too!
 
I'm just stunned at your husband's lack of caring. Wow. Yes, you are the one giving birth, but his presence there means (or can mean, I should say) everything. He's a big part of this whole process, too, and I'm a little concerned he's so detached from everything. What in the hell does he think life with a baby will be like?

Anyhow.

Yes, I found it worthwhile to go to the classes. Not the week-long ones or anything like that (unless you're doing Lamaze or something), but I found it really helpful to tour the hospital, see the maturnity wing, see where we'd stay while there, etc. Kind of just everything to reality, you know?

And I guess people attend alone, but I'll tell you, you're going to feel really, really lonely. Having a baby is a big deal (whether it's your 1st or 15th) and I can't imagine anything lonlier than sitting all by yourself at one of these classes when everyone else has their partner.
 
I'm just stunned at your husband's lack of caring. Wow. Yes, you are the one giving birth, but his presence there means (or can mean, I should say) everything. He's a big part of this whole process, too, and I'm a little concerned he's so detached from everything. What in the hell does he think life with a baby will be like?

Anyhow.

Yes, I found it worthwhile to go to the classes. Not the week-long ones or anything like that (unless you're doing Lamaze or something), but I found it really helpful to tour the hospital, see the maturnity wing, see where we'd stay while there, etc. Kind of just everything to reality, you know?

And I guess people attend alone, but I'll tell you, you're going to feel really, really lonely. Having a baby is a big deal (whether it's your 1st or 15th) and I can't imagine anything lonlier than sitting all by yourself at one of these classes when everyone else has their partner.
 
Hubbies seem to be that way sometimes, mine was supportive of whatever I wanted him to do but we both had a problem with the $350 it costs for the Bradley Method class.

We are just doing our research and reading a lot. I don't feel that taking a class is necessary. But it is important to be informed and know what your options are. I recommend Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin and The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer. Two wonderful resources that I read early on and will read again.
 
My hubby and I went just because we were so excited about giving birth, but truthfully, I didn't get much out of it and wouldn't do it for a second.... You could totally do it at home with a DVD or Youtube for that matter... Most husbands and wives attend together... but I'm sure there are some that go it alone.
 
I'm taking mine now and I actually enjoy going. However, mine's only $50 total. We go from 6:30-9:00 pm every Tuesday, for 4 weeks. It's just nice to be in there with other pregnant couples and it makes time go by faster as well. There are 12 couples total in there with me and none of them came alone. I would think you'd want someone with you only because they have you practice breathing techniques and will teach him what he can do to help you while you're suffering. My husband isn't big on this kind of stuff either but honestly, most of the guys in there aren't. Most of them just wanted to crack jokes the whole time. I probably wouldn't take it the second time around but with this being my first, I just opted to do it.
 
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