Is it normal to discuss these things during an affair, or does it mean more?

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Yes

Member
As you all know, my husband had an affair with the same woman for almost 2 years and he doesn't know that I know.

But after the last time they got together and had sex, in emails he started to illustrate to her what our kids are like, their personalities, how we raise them - and mentioned that at night, they watch a movie and then go to bed (they're 3 and 1). She was surprised, since they are so small and her son isn't allowed to watch TV at all (she's a SAHM). Then he changed the story and said "yeah, they watch like, a couple of scenes, then we put them down".

Then he started to describe what our oldest son would be like if he met her, how much he would love her and give her hugs and call her auntie...

Why was he saying these things to this other woman, in your opinion?

They're broken up right now, even though they did get back together 7 other times. I'm trying to put a plan together before I confront him. (I ALREADY KNOW I SHOULD LEAVE HIM, PLEASE ONLY ANSWER THE QUESTION I ASKED.)
 
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EverTight

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IMO, he is describing his children because he envisions a future with this woman, whether as a future wife or just a lover, don't know. Regardless, he expects his children will always be a part of his life whether or not you are in it, and apparently he expects this woman to be a part of his life as well. Or he just wants her to think he's a great dad and impress her.
 
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Dot

Member
Because he has every intention of keep seeing her
Whether he will leave you or you him ?
He is just letting her know
That he intends to introduce his children to her
I really do not know why you are still with him
What are you waiting for ??
I would have gone 2years ago
 
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beliel

New member
It really seems like he's just telling her what she wants to hear; saying things to please her. He said those..... I really don't want to say this because its going to hurt.... but he may be saying those things because he's consumed with her approval, and he may love her (7 times is ALOT for anyone, married or affair). I'm glad that you've got a plan in the works! When you confront him, I hope its exactly how you planned in your mind and that he wriggles like a worm on a hook :) (not the fantasy of cutting off his peepee of course, even though you probably REALLY want to do it XD)


Good Luck!!!!!
 
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Thirteen

New member
I was with a married man for 6 months just because I like him
after listen to all crap he went through with his wife
the best advice I give to him is to divorce

NOT FOR ME but for regain his mental sanity

now all you bitches can report me or block me or judge me
and keep play your fake victim role here in YA
but I can assure you
if you lose your husband is because you deserved that

you don't have any idea the things
a frustrated husband can say to is lover
I saw him cry because he want his wife back
like she was 5 years ago but he knows that is impossible

if you people think cheating is bad
you should try to imagine how bad it is
to share your life with a selfish person
who is focus to make your life miserable in anyways

yes you should leave him
maybe he get lucky to find a better woman
 
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shadow1

Member
See a soliciter quickly about finanical status and what access you and him will have with your children. there probably isn't anything to worry about. In most cases these things have a way of sorting themselves out. Be strong for you and your children. Seek professional advice from experts about how to deal with this problem both emotionally and finanically. Go and confine in friends and family as that is what they are there for. Surf the web for good sites about marriage advice and divorce, support telephone lines , the whole works and remember to stay positive. This is a bad time for you and time willl pass which will allow you to move on gradually at your own pace. I wish you the best and hope you will find love again with someone else who will be faithful to you.
 
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